brokendreamz Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 How all of a sudden it's like we don't even exist anymore! How one person can feel so much when the other is totally indifferent!! Well one bit of advice I have taken to heart and that keeps on helping is 'Don't even try to understand - it really doesn't matter' and it doesn't... It doesn't matter if they lied It doesn't matter if they cheated It just doesn't matter! Someone's signature on here sums it up... If ex wanted to be with you, ex would be with you - just think about that for a minute! I'm fed up thinking about her, I'm fed up trying to understand so I won't anymore. From this moment forth I intend to do my best for ME! I suggest you do the same :0)
Bito Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Yea, I almost feel guilty having the feelings I have even after what she did to me. But you are right. It does not matter. I just need to find a way to keep preoccupied so I don't think about her.
radiodarcy Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Well one bit of advice I have taken to heart and that keeps on helping is 'Don't even try to understand - it really doesn't matter' and it doesn't... It doesn't matter if they lied It doesn't matter if they cheated It just doesn't matter! ... I'm fed up thinking about her, I'm fed up trying to understand so I won't anymore. From this moment forth I intend to do my best for ME! I suggest you do the same :0) this is so true. i realized that if i had any chance of getting over him i had to stop trying to figure out the "hows" and the "whys" because knowing what they are isn't going to change anything. being able to say "it doesn't matter" was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. prior to that i spent many a night literally pacing my apartment (over)analyzing every word, gesture, tone. it drove me mad! i had severe depression and anxiety. going NC and saying it doesn't matter put an end to all of that. because i had finally given myself permission to let go. and once i did that, i took back the control from him. today marks month 5 of NC. his birthday was yesterday, i had no desire to contact him and i certainly wasn't going to waste four perfectly good months of NC to do so (particularly as he failed to acknowledge my own birthday this year or the year prior) so i didn't. i too am tired of thinking about and understanding someone who clearly doesn't want me in their life and hasn't for some time now.
shawn923 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I hear ya, it just doesnt matter. If she wants to make a huge mistake by lettin u go, let her. She clearly doesnt think much of u and "knows" she can do better. Just F it... forget about it. Life's too short to dwell on somebody or something that just doesnt make sense at all. If it makes you cry more than smile, its no longer worth it.
Steven T Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Damn straight! It does not matter! Just get out there and have some fun, go to bars, meet and chat to other girls as it works wonders!!! Lifes too short to dwell on previous relationships. Get out there and have some fun, live your life as I have been doing. I have never felt so alive by doing this.
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