Nakishar Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) About five months ago, I started to date my best friend. About two weeks ago, she broke it off with me. She said that she thought I no longer enjoyed spending time with her and that she meant nothing to me. This certainly wasn't the case. Ive always loved her and enjoyed spending time with her. She was deeply hurt by me and my attitude/actions. But I never meant to harm her in any way and it kills me that I did. Shes always been an abused girl - either from her father or boyfriends in the past. So she says she doesn't give second chances although im pretty sure she had in the past. Also, because of her past, she doesn't often let anyone get close to her. I was one of the few so my actions seem like betrayal, in a way, to her. At least I think so. Being that we're best friends, we try to talk through but a lot of times, I can't get a response if I say anything remotely related to the relationship or even emotions such as saying I'm sorry (not related to the relationship). I want to give her space but I also want to support her. I could tell last week that I was bothering her and she wasn't that comfortable, the day after we'd met up when I'd brought up the break up and specifically the reasons for it. So I said that I'd give her space if she wanted and she agreed. Then a few days later, she was having a personal issue and I texted her support, which she appreciated. The next day after seeing pictures of me at a wedding (only three days into the week of space she waned), she texted me and was acting better. We got together and the breakup came up again (by me) but I quickly dropped it. Later that day, she tells me that she wasn't ready to see me. I asked if there was anything I could do since the problem with us is that I'd been neglectful of her. She was pretty distant. I said I'd give her a few days. The next day (yesterday), she contacted me again to talk about her life although she still avoids anything related to the relationship or breakup. She was initially saying that this might just be a break, but when I started bothering her, she switched to no second chances. Which is closer to the truth? What should I do about her since I want her back? Thanks. Sorry if it's too long. Edited July 26, 2011 by Nakishar Clarification of the title
Author Nakishar Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) Some more: She said she just wants to go back to being friends and that she won't give me another chance, but she does talk to me. She can't talk about anything relationship-wise and I don't want to push her. But she still tells me about important things in her day, without me even asking. Is this just her being friends or do you think she's going to want to get back? Also, she wants to go back to being best friends. But she said that the reason she loved me (not that she doesn't still love me), is because despite all of her problems, I still loved her and cared about her and we were such good friends. None of that is going to go away. Is it even possible for us to go back to being good friends when being friends is what made us date, to a large degree? I'd really appreciate any help I can get. Thanks Edited July 27, 2011 by Nakishar
Author Nakishar Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 Can anybody give some advice or opinion.
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