without Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 i can't stop myself thinking why would a guy that loved me so much,suddely leave me...I remembered sth.. From the first he hated painting and drawings..Once i asked him to go to a museum with me but he wouldn't ...AT ALL...and when seeing an art gallery in our way he would face another way... he didn't say why,but something about his ex...I asked him to tell me but he didn't... I really like drawing.about the last days we were together ,the uni was finished so i started to do drawing as my hobby..I did good actually...and i showed him..he said yeah it's great... I wonder if i reminded him of his ex that he left me...he used to tell me he never had loved anyone more than me...
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I wouldn't say it's not possible, but I think you are over analysing the situation. Think of the fundamentals of a relationship, what is required for them to work. It's best to start very vague and work your way down to a specific aspect to really figure out what went wrong. Communication is the cause of 95% of breakups, and from communications you can narrow it down to trust, expression, life goals, ect. If you decide that you communicated fine that's great, you can start from your own vague point and narrow it down from there. You will know when you've hit a good reason for your break when you can think of several occurrences of the fault and hopefully by knowing this it will help you heal (it did me but I've seen others that find a reason but can't seem to accept it).
Author without Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 I wouldn't say it's not possible, but I think you are over analysing the situation. Think of the fundamentals of a relationship, what is required for them to work. It's best to start very vague and work your way down to a specific aspect to really figure out what went wrong. Communication is the cause of 95% of breakups, and from communications you can narrow it down to trust, expression, life goals, ect. If you decide that you communicated fine that's great, you can start from your own vague point and narrow it down from there. You will know when you've hit a good reason for your break when you can think of several occurrences of the fault and hopefully by knowing this it will help you heal (it did me but I've seen others that find a reason but can't seem to accept it). But I tried a lot, all the reasons don't seem to convince me...
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 But I tried a lot, all the reasons don't seem to convince me... Are you looking at the relationship as a whole, yourself, and him? Sometimes it is hard to analyse everything and you can easily overlook a fault (that when you find will seem obvious). Also if you truly can't come up with a reason try broadening your initial starting point. consider that he may have had something in his life contributed to the breakup (another girl, personal issues, family issues, maybe he had gigs). Initially I thought my relationship was fault proof... but after a while I started realizing that I never told her how I truly felt and what I wanted to do in the future. obviously I settled and accepted that the relationship lacked communication and I also truly believe she has gigs. Give it a little more time, it's not something you will discover right away. But when you do find something it will be an "Ah Ha!" moment.
Author without Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 No we communicated well. But right...
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