Challenger Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Hi Girl's Here are the questions. When out at a bar or club. What are the do's and don't that men will do? When you are approched do you like a man that is confident, genuine, and direct. or someone that try's to be more cocky and funny? Finally, and be honest here. Do you like it more when a man is more sexual at first with you and is honest with his intention for wanting to meet you or would you perfure a guy that is just interested in talking, asking you a bunch of questions and trying to get to know you better? I think this will be some good info for all men to see! -Challenger
Emilia Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 These sort of threads get posted all the time when men are looking for an easy answer about how to talk to women but there isn't one. Every woman is different. I think when they are younger (early 20s) often they will prefer a softer (less direct, less cocky) approach and when older we are usually more confident so can deal with much more - or appreciate it when a man is honest and direct about what he wants. It depends on the woman though, there is no 'one size fits all' answer I'm afraid. You should do what you are comfortable with and you will attract a like minded person.
Cee Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I prefer confident, genuine, and direct. However, usually guys who are like that also come across as funny and clever. The problem with a guy who is cocky and funny is he seems generic. I think it's good if a man shows a piece of his best, true self right away. But my criteria for attraction is based on intelligence and maturity, rather than looks alone. There isn't a recipe of success though. Getting a date is difficult and if men (and women) have low expectations for dating in bars/clubs, then they won't be disappointed. One last thought. I don't think opening a conversation with questions is a good idea. It can turn into an interview. If you say something that provokes an interested response, then you can build upon each other - and that builds rapport.
blue_ikat Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 These sort of threads get posted all the time when men are looking for an easy answer about how to talk to women but there isn't one. Every woman is different. It's so true. Treat each woman as *person*. Whether a woman responds to you has much more to do with her personality, her experiences, and her emotional state that day rather than your 'style'. None of which you can know until you approach her and say "Hi, I'm _____. It's some great weather we're having, isn't it?".
April72 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I think fun is good. And in the situation Honest is best. If you are just looking for a hook up for the night then be real about it.... If you are trying to meet someone that you want to date awhile be real. We can smell BS across the room if we are regular club girls.... don't BS a BS'r won't work.
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