He wants "Space"....should I hold on or just forget he exists??

[girlygirl505]

Hello all, new to LS and the dating scene and really need some insight on how I should handle this situation.

 

After divorcing my ExH of 11 years, I was finally ready to start dating. Met a few interesting people then one guy in particular who I've been seeing exclusivly now for 4.5 months.

 

We both have kids and we did not make it to the point in which we were ready to introduce the children so our time together was limited. We were both so into each other that we made it work by seeing each other once a week (date & overnight stay) and spent every other weekend together. It was awesome because we had our family time with the kids, then a whole other world that included just the two of us when our kids were with their other parent. We got along very well, in fact, not one single fight during the whole 5 months, had a great time together, amazing sex, got along well with my friends and me with his friends and co-workers, etc.

 

Last week, my bf found out his ex's boyfriend became violent with her and his son. He flew into a rage and paid the guy a visit (at the home that the boyfriend, ex and son share together) and beat the boyfriend up. Cops were called. My bf's son was removed from the mothers care and he ended up taking his son on full time until the courts figure out what to do. His ExW is currently looking for a place to live and my bf is looking to get a protective order for his son against this guy just in case the ExW and the boyfriend get back together.

 

Since all this took place, I understandably have been put on the backburner. Very few calls, text message, no time spent together at all. I finally talked with him today and he told me that he's had a blast with me and is so terribly sorry but he needs time to figure all of this out with his son. He said that if he takes full custody of his son, there may be no time for "us" but not to hate him, forget about him or lose his number. I was shocked but I guess I understand. I am just so hurt that he'd drop me instead of letting me be there with him to work through this. Not "physically" be there but "emotionally and mentally" as I know hes tore up about this.

 

My question is, given the great relationship vs. family drama, should I just write this guy off and forget he ever existed or should I just give him space for now but every once in a while, remind him that I am still here for him in hopes of us being together again once his family situation is resolved?

 

I cant wait to hear your thoughts...

[Eddie Edirol]

Ive never been in his situation, but I cant see why he would want to be away from you at a time like this. Even if its not much time. But I dont know. udsually space means breakup at some point. I think that if he can put you on the backburner like that, it means he doesnt want to see you, which means he wasnt that into you yet. I would say forget him for now, and if he comes back its a nice surprise. Unfortunately, usually space means space to date other people. So dont be surprised if you find out hes dating someone new.