spiderowl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) What do guys mean by 'a relationship'? The reason I ask is that I get the impression that guys use the term when really they mean 'regular sex'. I have chatted to guys who claim to want a relationship but it's all flirty chat and talk about appearances and sex. Where does relationship in its emotional sense come into all this? What do guys on here mean when they say they want 'a relationship'? What defines a relationship for a guy? Why do guys use the term when really they mean sex with a a particular woman they like the look of but know nothing about as a person? Apologies for double posting. I thought one post had been removed because I couldn't see it and then it re-appeared. I could swear it had gone! Edited July 26, 2011 by spiderowl
Nexus One Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) I can only talk for myself, but I have to admit that what I'm about to say does not count for every guy. In fact the guys that I know that think like this are in the minority. For me a relationship is something meaningful, a meaningful bond with a woman. A relationship is being with each other, being happy together and sharing each other's happiness. A relationship is to be on equal footing with each other. A relationship is getting to know each other. A relationship is being in a crush, in an infatuation, in a swoon, on a cloud and in an addiction. It's a celebration of the desire to be one. (hmmm, that last bit might be pushing it, but I just liked saying that, sue me) A relationship involves emotion and emotional intimacy rather than mere sexual intimacy. A relationship involves romance and passion at times. Sex is also a major part of a relationship. A (serious) relationship is where the man and woman like each other so much that they choose out of free will to be loyal to each other. A relationship is also to be friends, to be a team, to solve problems together if there are any. It also means to not want to hurt the other person or to want to see them suffering. A relationship involves carefully choosing one's partner in terms of looks, personality, intelligence and compatibility. The shoe should fit and the shoe fits when you're both happy to see each other. I happen to know that in Belgium people say "I love you" like this: "I feel joy when I see you." That's cutting it down to the very core in my opinion. Edited July 26, 2011 by Nexus One
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