super10556 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 So, first a little background. I dated my ex from September 2010 to May 2011 (8 months). She dumped me in May 2011. Fast forward to now. I'm starting to date someone who goes to the same college as her. If things get serious in this new relationship, then I'm going to be spending a good amount of time at this university, because the girl I'm currently dating lives on campus there. My ex is a commuter student, but will still be spending a good amount of time on campus. It's a small campus, so I would think there would be a fairly high chance of me and my ex "running into each other". My ex and I have had almost no contact since we broke up, except for a letter from her telling me to never contact her again. I'm wondering if I should break no contact with my ex and tell her I might be on her campus preemtively before we have a chance to run into each other. The main reason is that I'm afraid if I just run into her, she'll think I'm stalking her or something and call campus security. This isn't because I'm a stalkerish guy. I've completely left her alone since we broke up. This is mainly because she is an EXTREMELY anxiety prone girl and has been sexually assaulted before, so she has security issues. Should I contact her and tell her I'm dating someone who goes to her school (and possibly have her call security anyway) or just risk running into her on her campus? I really don't want my ex's security issues to prevent me from spending time with my current love interest.
phineas Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Actually, you sound exactly like a stalker looking for an excuse to stalk an ex who told you to never contact her again. Seriously, who you trying to convince? Us or yourself? Call campus security because you on the same campus as her? LOL!
Ruby Slippers Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Seriously. Don't worry about her. Just date the new girl and forget the old one. If you bump into her, deal with it then.
Author super10556 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 Actually, you sound exactly like a stalker looking for an excuse to stalk an ex who told you to never contact her again. Seriously, who you trying to convince? Us or yourself? Call campus security because you on the same campus as her? LOL! And this is why I shouldn't ask strangers on the internet about personal problems... Forgot about the all the self-righteous a*****s who rush to judgement. All: Do me a favor and ignore this thread. Mods, please delete thread if you happen upon it.
phineas Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 And this is why I shouldn't ask strangers on the internet about personal problems... Forgot about the all the self-righteous a*****s who rush to judgement. All: Do me a favor and ignore this thread. Mods, please delete thread if you happen upon it. Sorry it wasn't the answer YOU wanted to hear. I can only work with what you provide. what you provided is your ex dumped you & told you to never talk to her again & you want to contact her again for no reason that makes sense. Why did she tell you to never contact her again? 99.9% of the time it's because the guy takes things to a stalker level & won't leave the poor girl alone.
rafallus Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Lol, how do you figure out he's a stalker? If anything he's paranoid, because he thinks he owes his ex sth. @OP You don't. What Ruby said. If ex has a problem with that, it's her problem.
zengirl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 There's no reason to tell her. I mean, "goes to the same college" is such a huge swath anyway (if they lived in the same building or something, I might mention it to the new girl, not the ex, so the new girl doesn't get bogged down with any gossip, but I wouldn't worry about "goes to the same college" at all). And why would you tell the ex at all?
utterer of lies Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 ... Most of your post is about your ex, not the new girl. You seem pretty hung up on her, still thinking too much about her. Sure the new date has more than the 'same college as ex' going for her in your mind?
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