guiltofone Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Question for anyone, do you believe in the concept of a soul mate? If not, do you have a reason why? And if so, and you "discover" this person you believe is yours, to what extent would you go to be with them?
WeatherMe Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Hey guiltofone, I don't really believe in soulmates... I just think it's far too fairy tale. Relationships take A LOT of hard work, compromise, understanding and patience. Soulmates (from my understanding) are two people "meant" to be together, everything works and nothing can end it (except maybe death) I think reading through all these posts is enough proof for me that it's baloney. I have found what I believe to be the girl for me. Soul mates? I think not, but I want NO ONE else but her. I have never been so in love with someone and would go to the end of the earth and back for her. Could that change down the road? Who knows, I don't see it happening but how many people here post threads saying "Never saw this coming."? I love her and that's all I know or need to know.
runner Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Question for anyone, do you believe in the concept of a soul mate? If not, do you have a reason why? And if so, and you "discover" this person you believe is yours, to what extent would you go to be with them? well for starters i don't take ownership of people and secondly, yes, i do believe in 'soul mates' but i define it in practical terms rather than some inexplicable cosmic thing. basically, a soulmate to me is someone who just gets me on a very deep level, and that dynamic doesn't necessarily have to be romantic, nor is it limited to one person at a time. i currently have several soulmates in my life and i would easily give the shirt off my back for any of them. lastly, i think one need to think in terms of having a "soul" (per se), to begin to even grasp or accept the concept of a "soul mate"- concepts which many simply do not subscribe to. and i'm cool with people who don't. to each his own.
runner Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 oh and i forgot this bit , to what extent would you go to be with them? the beauty of coming across a fellow 'soul mate' is that there's little to no work involved. you just get each other so much, to such a degree, where it feels effortless to just want to be around each other. you know- that feeling of familiarity; like you've known each other forever. again, perhaps some wishy washy stuff that most people don't subscribe to
somedude81 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I believe I may have found mine but of course their are complications. There are so many signs telling me that it's next to be but there is another side trying to keep us apart. I've been trying to get this girl for a while now but I'm close to just giving up and admitting defeat. So I'll probably just end up seeing her as fate's way of f*cking with me.
FinOuch Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I think the term soul mate best represents the strange phenomenon of when two people just click. To put in context, I consider some of my friends "soul mates" from a kindred spirit sort of perspective. So yes, I do believe in soul mates, but not in the conventional sense. The same concept applies to romantic relationships. There are people that you just click with for whatever reason - chemicals in your brain, personalities, some weird combination of something that we just don't have any understanding of. And the others don't. It doesn't necessarily make you compatible...it just means there's some unexplainable connection. With that being said...I don't believe in predestined love, or that there is only one person who is your "soul mate". If it doesn't work out with one, there are others who can and will fit the role in their own unique way. "The One" is just the person you choose to commit to, and vice versa. Unfortunately, I think people get so hung up on what they think "The One"/"Soul Mates"/"True Love" ought to be that they end up losing out on the really great thing that is sitting right in front of them.
Afishwithabike Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 If by "soul mates" you mean something mystical, two halves of one soul, fated to be one another, one and only type of thing then I'd have to say I don't believe in that kind of soul mate. For me "soul mate" is someone who has a profound connection with me. Someone who really gets me and accepts me the way I am. That's how I feel about my husband. Given the number of people on this planet, there are probably a number of people who could have been a soul mate to me. It just so happened that in my 20s my life intersected with one of them. When I was younger and had a much more romanticized view of relationships (based on reading too many romance novels ), I used to believe in soul mates, but I really didn't know much about love back then.
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