tryingtoforget Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 My H cheated on me 4 years ago, when we were just dating with two other women, BK and BS. after i found i got the some bs "he'll never see,talk, shes out of his life" anywho, a year later even though we were going through a rough patch i found out i was pregnant, we got married the whole shabam. we have been married for 3 years together for 4 and he has seen BK every year at least once. not only does he go see her he lies to me each time about it. first time when he cheated on me the excuse was " im having a boys night" 2nd year, "going downtown with guys from school" 3rd going to a concert with guys from work and this year he didnt bother telling me since i always find out the day of or few days after. im sick and tired of it. he tells me their only friends, shes someone he can talk to....im tired of it, i cant handle it anymore. i just dont know how to approcch him without him minipulating it . are we allowed to take breaks in a marrige?
PegNosePete Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 are we allowed to take breaks in a marrige? You are "allowed" to do whatever you want. Whether it's a good idea or not is another matter. So you know that he is cheating with her, right? He is not just "talking" to her, no way in hell. He is putting your life at risk from STDs. He has absolutely no respect for you or your marriage. What do you think he would do if you acted like this, going off to have sex with some guy that you cheated with 4 years ago? Would he be so accepting? I'll tell you how to approach it with him. You say, if I find out you've seen BK or BS or any other woman behind my back then you will be getting divorce papers the very next day. And then be ready to follow through with it, if he does.
Spark1111 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Insist he invite BK over for dinner, or better, yet, do it yourself and do not inform him. You are dying to meet his very close friend. He should be more than haappy to oblige you. People with nothing to hide, hide nothing. Depending on the reaction you receive, you can plan from there.
Author tryingtoforget Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 I've already tried that, he said no....which is why i know something is up but everytime i say something to him baout its a few weeks where were fighting. he said shes scared of me...well she shouldnt be scared of me if she has nothing to hide
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