lostlife Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 I have been going through a tough time of trying to get divorced, my wife and I have been having problems for a long time and we fight, we say we are going to change, then it all goes back to the same. So about 2 months ago, we decide that it is better that we get divorced instead of going through this anymore. Well now she has been dragging her feet about the divorce, but still treats me the same. She has been posting on Facebook that she moving back to her hometown and she can't wait, but she keeps saying to me she doesn't know what she is doing, moving back or moving out and staying in this town. She is loving and caring like she wants to work things out one minute and then the next anything I say to her she is aggravated. Supposedly she has come up with this date when she is going to be out of the house, but she won't tell me what her plan is when the date comes. I know that it is over between us, but she is still living in the house and it is hard to look at her without it being emotional for me, I do still love her, I am just having a hard time letting go. I guess that I should move out of the house until she goes, I am just really confused on what to do.
just-a-girl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Seems to me like your wife doesn't want a divorce. It seems like she is using it as a scare tactic to get your attention hoping you will see the error of your ways. It doesn't seem like either one of you want a divorce, what you need is a serious heart to heart and probably some counseling.
Author lostlife Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Seems to me like your wife doesn't want a divorce. It seems like she is using it as a scare tactic to get your attention hoping you will see the error of your ways. It doesn't seem like either one of you want a divorce, what you need is a serious heart to heart and probably some counseling. I keep getting all of these mixed emotions from her, I really just think that she knows its over and doesn't want to have to start over again and now that it is time to move, she doesn't want to. I want a divorce for sure, I am tired of the games that she has played and I feel like she has just used me for security and money.
SarahBerry Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 I notice you say that you both fight...and you have been having some problems for a long time...what i am wondering is do you have some problems with your wife or does your wife have problems with you? If your wife has problems with you that cause you both to fight, have you addressed these and changed or tried to fix this? and vice versa if you have some problems with her has she addressed them and changed or tried to fix this?
Author lostlife Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 I notice you say that you both fight...and you have been having some problems for a long time...what i am wondering is do you have some problems with your wife or does your wife have problems with you? If your wife has problems with you that cause you both to fight, have you addressed these and changed or tried to fix this? and vice versa if you have some problems with her has she addressed them and changed or tried to fix this? I think most of it is because the lack of communication with each other and when we do talk we end up being smart asses to each other and in turn starts a fight. We use to work together building house and that was our common interest together and when we stopped that and we got separate jobs is when we started falling apart. We have tried over and over again to say what do we need to do to fix this and try it, but we always revert back to the old ways. We just can't talk anymore, if we do its just short and sweet.
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