Deb53 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 I have on one to talk to about this.I have been in a relationship for over 20 years. I meet him in the early nineties.He had nor did we have children together.He raised my 4 girl 3 boys.We have raised my daughters two children or raising 13 and 10 girls also.On June 10 2011 I get a call from a woman saying that she was finished with my man and I could have him back.I hung up the phone and went to where he was to confront him. He told me everything.This had been going on for thirteen months.He told me bits,I know there is something more.When I found out I was calm I cried which I still do at times.He asked me to marry him,Which I did,on the 15th of June 2011.People say I'm crazy.I did so I could have insurance from his work.He got a job at TVA makes good money.He's had it for two years.He said when he got back from training we were going to get married.When he got the job everything changed.Even tho we have been together for all those years i was still legally married. i got divorced in 2007.I have known of this affair not even two months and my husband says I should forget about it and let it go.Well this weekend I get messages from this woman dogging me out telling me that this was him seeking her out he admitted it to a certain point.She was telling me things that only my husband knew. But he swears that he never said anything about our relationship to her.Well this week has been pure hell for me.I want to hurt the both of them trust me that is a understatement.I've thought about killing my self.I cry I hurt so bad all I want is for the pain to go away.I've cried he calls me a baby.I told him I was going to see about an annulment.he informed me tonight that if I leave him the rest will have to go to.Our two sons live with us.Our youngest has two children,he even said that the grand kids will have to go to.When this happened he ask me to marry him I was going to leave he told me I wasn't going anywhere. I'm so hurt I don't want to feel like this I have children grandchildren family but I Would rather be dead than to go Thur this. Can someone please help me get Thur this? I'm desperate.
Author Deb53 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 :confused:I have on one to talk to about this.I have been in a relationship for over 20 years. I meet him in the early nineties.He had nor did we have children together.He raised my 4 girl 3 boys.We have raised my daughters two children or raising 13 and 10 girls also.On June 10 2011 I get a call from a woman saying that she was finished with my man and I could have him back.I hung up the phone and went to where he was to confront him. He told me everything.This had been going on for thirteen months.He told me bits,I know there is something more.When I found out I was calm I cried which I still do at times.He asked me to marry him,Which I did,on the 15th of June 2011.People say I'm crazy.I did so I could have insurance from his work.He got a job at TVA makes good money.He's had it for two years.He said when he got back from training we were going to get married.When he got the job everything changed.Even tho we have been together for all those years i was still legally married. i got divorced in 2007.I have known of this affair not even two months and my husband says I should forget about it and let it go.Well this weekend I get messages from this woman dogging me out telling me that this was him seeking her out he admitted it to a certain point.She was telling me things that only my husband knew. But he swears that he never said anything about our relationship to her.Well this week has been pure hell for me.I want to hurt the both of them trust me that is a understatement.I've thought about killing my self.I cry I hurt so bad all I want is for the pain to go away.I've cried he calls me a baby.I told him I was going to see about an annulment.he informed me tonight that if I leave him the rest will have to go to.Our two sons live with us.Our youngest has two children,he even said that the grand kids will have to go to.When this happened he ask me to marry him I was going to leave he told me I wasn't going anywhere. I'm so hurt I don't want to feel like this I have children grandchildren family but I Would rather be dead than to go Thur this. Can someone please help me get Thur this? I'm desperate.
creighton0123 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 If you are having suicidal thoughts, this is not the forum to raise them. You need vocal, human, sympathetic contact. Call 1-800-273-TALK as soon as you're able. In the meantime, I strongly recommend you step back and look around. If your husband is incapable of providing you with the security and love you require, know that you have beautiful children who can provide you with security and love instead. Delight in them. They are the reason for your life, not him.
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