mavlast Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Long story short. We met online and she lives two states away. We got really close, but one day she told me she was going on a date with another guy. I was hurt, both because she was so happy about this date and because it had apparently been planned for a while and she had been talking amorously to me. We got into an argument and she didn't want anything else to do with me. Our friendship was totally ruined. What's worse, I picked a fight with her a few months later over something on one of her pages and lied to her in the process. I was emphatically shown the door. I apologized for what I did by message, but got no response. I've had a lot of time to think and I understand that I'm the only one to blame for what happened. I was a jealous, overbearing, spiteful a-hole to a girl that didn't deserve any of that. Now I want to start over with her since she goes to my university -- maybe not a relationship right away, but at least talking. I've contacted her a few times in the past (months apart) but wasn't received very warmly; however, I never came out and apologized for the way I acted about her date or admitted that I was wrong. I am considering trying again, but have several questions: (1) Would it be a good idea, and if not, how do I forget about someone that I'm so attached to? (2) Should I just call her, or try to arrange a little meeting at a coffeehouse where I can talk to her in person? (3) Should I wait until she's single? I've blocked her on Facebook because going to her page makes me moody, so I can't really tell otherwise. I don't want her to think that this is all a ploy to steal her from some guy. I'd be interested in a relationship, but much later. I want to take things slowly. (4) What do I say? I want to avoid being a melodramatic loser "ex" and begging her to pleeeease take me back, or look like I can't get a life/girlfriend, and at the same time I don't want to be too detached. Also, I want her to realize that I made a mistake that I'll never make again, and that I'm not just sucking up only to repeat history. Thanks for reading my little novel here!
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