Marianis Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Hello...so my exbf broke up with me like 5 months ago after 3 years of a long distance relationship... but kept talking and knowing about eachother... he needed time to think but i was always begging him to take me back.. when i stoped .. he came to México (he is canadian) .. and the first days he was all romantic and telling me how much he wanted me to go live with him when i finish school in december... after like 3 days he started treating me like **** and blaining for every single thing that happen in our relation ship told me that he was an ******* to me cause i made him that way and i took it all... he told me he love me like every day ... and he stayed for 2 weeks and since he didnt want to get back together with me i told him that it was too painful to see him as a friend so i told him that it was better to cut all comuntications.. i obviosly couldnt so after a week i talked to him again just on msn, since he didnt have skype or facebook anymore. I didnt like being just a random friend but i was happy to still knowing about him ... until a week after it was his bday and i did whatever i could to call him to his work in the reserves and tell him happy bday! .. :S .. mmm ... he even told me it was really nice to talk to me .... anyway.. the day after that.. i saw a mutual friend of us at the mall and she told me "yesterday was his bday! .. i put something on his wall.. " and i was like .. mm he doesnt have facebook! .. and she showed me his facebook and all the things girls told him and stuff.. :S i cheked on my computer and i realized he blocked me and my family! :S:S i was really upset so i put this on his msn wow eh!! ... you got facebook!! .. and blocked me!! .. ha! .. thanks for the favor... I give up! .. and im done letting you treat me like ****! .. cause i was nothing but nice to you ... i guess this is what you wanted anyway ... so i make it easy for you! .. have a nice life! .. ENJOY!" bye! then i deleted him from msn .. deleted his phone numbers and all his friends and every way of comunication with him ... its been a month since then and i know nothing at all about him .. i think about him all the time! .. i even wake up thinking about him and even if i want to i cant forget him... :S ---so after all this hahaha my question is: would you guys .. think about someone as much as that?! .. .. i wonder if he even think about me... or he is going to look for me someday.. what do you think?! .. i just want him to realize what he lost! .. and maybe come back to me someday.. mmm ... do you think it would be posible???.. i really love him and im trying to move on but it doesnt seem posible in my mind. .. and maybe guys from other cultures are different than here.. i dont know!! :S mm maybe deep inside i know the asnwer but mm nothing is imposible right!? please answer.. whatever it is i guess it could help me. thanks!
carhill Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 He sounds whacked and it's a LDR and you're young. Stick to NC and enjoy the attentions of other young men. I guess you pretty much got this advice back in May. Sorry about being a broken record.
Author Marianis Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 hahahaa! .. ok ok ive been trying to but i just dont care about them.. i dont like Mexican guys hahaha.. and if i go on dates and stuff i always compare them with himm.. its dumb but... mmm i dont know hahaha.. :S im hopeless da!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :S ..
Layzie89 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 To me it seems like he knows he has you wrapped around his finger and he's taking full advantage of that, messing with your feelings and taking the relationship for granted. Give him a taste of his own medicine...you've deleted him from MSN and his phone number which is great. Stick to NC and make him wonder about you a bit. If you keep creeping back into his life one way or another you give him no time to miss you. Guys perspective. Yes, NC does work on us too. Drives us crazy, actually.
Ross MwcFan Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 He sounds like a total dick. I know you love him, but at the same time it's still hard to understand why you'd want him back.
SillyS Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 What is up with the blame? I will just tag along to this thread, we should just stay clear of canadians apparently! My ex was from Nova Scotia, and i'm a law student in Holland. We basically became close before I moved there and he basically guilt tripped me the entire time I was with him. Telling me things like, if he isn't with me, that he would work and die alone. That he wanted to be healthy (diabetic) for me, and that he wanted to "marry me" etc. He said alot of things, but basically he didn't mean much of what he said or used those things to keep me for a while. Fastforward two months ago, he decides that I guilted him. That I was making him feel bad, and using him. He broke up with me by thowing a plane ticket at me, and saying that he changed my flight for me and that he was done. I didn't show enough change in 2 months and that was guilting him too much. I have never had such a dysfunctional break up in my life. I generally speaking think that life is too short, and that LDR are so hard that the basic element of Nova Scotia and Holland was enough to see the difficulty of maintaining us. I don't get why he had to make me feel like I wounded him, like I hurt him beyond belief. When I tried many times to leave him, and he played on my compassion to give him another chance. Can a guy please decode what happened here for me? "We can't be together EVER, you hurt me too much".
Author Marianis Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 I know it’s hard to understand why i want to be with him still.. Everybody keeps telling me that haha! .. I just care about him too much! and i used to have dreams with him and it’s difficult to let them go .. I mean we fought for that for 3 years! ... and when the time was about to come i guess he got cold feet or something i don’t know! .. I do love him a lot :S ..and when i think of getting back together with him i also get mad at myself to let him treat me that way.. and I can’t imagine how it would be if we see each other again... I have to much grudge right now .. so yes It’s better for me to heal first.. but it would also be good to just hear his voice again. Yesterday i went out with my exbf (the one before the other guy) and he opened my eyes.. telling me that i just need to find my own dream .. something that is just up to me.. not something that depends on others .. and that’s so true! .. and yes i lost myself in a way.. and now i need to find me again so i guess is good just to take some time as you guys say! .. and maybe stop wondering things that don’t make me any good! .. Thank you guys so much! … and please don’t be mean with someone you love… because karma is a bitch! Hahaha! jk! Anyway…. time will say and i will see what happen next!
Author Marianis Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 "We can't be together EVER, you hurt me too much". hahaha that was the same that my ex told me!! .. but you know in a relationship there are 2 people and it wasn’t just your fault.. so forgive yourself! .. that’s the important thing... and then .. maybe someday he can forgive you and see what he lost!... its easier to give advise because its something I been living for a long time.. but ya! .. LDR are really really hard! :S I add this song for you! someday we will see it was for the best! since we share the same problem haha
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