jayz82 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 just this week i took the plunge and told a friend (i am 29 she is 18) i have known for 10 years how i felt about her:love:. I have known her parents just as long and they pretty much consider me their son. recently i confided in them that i have depression and that i am getting help through a therapist and pills. But now because of this my friends mom will not let her go out with me because of my depression and told her daughter that she will not let me come over to the house anymore or that she will kick her out of the house and that as long as she lives under her roof she will date who her mom wants her to. She has been trying to set her daughter up with two guys that i know are players but says that she wants her daughter in a serious committed relationship which is what i want also. She can't move in with me as of right now because i live at home due to me going to college, but i have decided that if i comes to it that i will move to the nearest city with a university and get an apartment for us to stay in. I have told her dad how i felt and he said to give him a couple of days to bring it up but her mom is acting crazy just a month ago she wanted us to go out. I guess i feel i am being punished for being honest and reaching out for help. I have not felt like this about anyone ever and just want the chance to see if it will work out any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Finch Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 So you've known this girl since she was 8 and you were 19? At what point did you start developing feelings for thus much younger woman? I hope it was not when she was still a child. I don't think it's the depression that makes her parents question the relationship, it's the 11 year age gap. In the eyes of the parents (and I'm curious about this as well) what does someone who is almost thirty have in common with someone who's just out of high school? Most 18-year-olds are not yet finished going through the growing pains of life that often occur during the late teens and early 20's. It seems possible that you are an immature 28 year-old, in which case your maturity levels may be more in sync, but the age difference is still a lot. I don't mean immature in an insulting way, but simply that you still live at home, are still trying to finish university - you aren't yet established as an adult. Now you are having issues with depression and are on medication. Yet you expect the blessing of this girl's parents as you try to date their much younger daughter. A little naive, I feel.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Her mother sounds really controlling, and the woman is young, so you probably don't stand a chance for anything serious. You could probably get her to sneak away and have rebellious sex, but if you try to get serious, her obnoxious mom is going to be all up in your grills constantly.
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