Toon666 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 so here is how it goes.i met this girl at a friends birthday party a couple of months ago , she started chasing me since that day , added me to facebook and wanted to make plans.after a couple of weeks we went out for a few drinks and every thing went so well.the week after it was my birthday and she texted me asking that if she could to be my birthday date, i liked the idea and said yes. this girl bought me an expensive birthday cake that she brought to my party.everything went so well again and than she made plans to see me right next day. she came over the next day, went for a movie and made out for a while. and than she made another plan for the day after saying that she wants to come along with me to this boxing fight that i was going too. next day i text her and she says she wouldnt be able to come since she has a bad headache and asked me if it was ok..i said yea fine, take some rest..its been three weeks since and she hasnt replied to my one text that i sent her asking her to call me when she gets a chance and a facebook message in which i asked her if she was free last sunday. I am not in love with her but i feel rejected by someone who was chasing ME all this time.i find it hard to understand why she would dissappear on me like that..i am 25 and she is 31 by the way.. any advice? what do you guys think? thanks
Fondue Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 so here is how it goes.i met this girl at a friends birthday party a couple of months ago , she started chasing me since that day , added me to facebook and wanted to make plans.after a couple of weeks we went out for a few drinks and every thing went so well.the week after it was my birthday and she texted me asking that if she could to be my birthday date, i liked the idea and said yes. this girl bought me an expensive birthday cake that she brought to my party.everything went so well again and than she made plans to see me right next day. she came over the next day, went for a movie and made out for a while. and than she made another plan for the day after saying that she wants to come along with me to this boxing fight that i was going too. next day i text her and she says she wouldnt be able to come since she has a bad headache and asked me if it was ok..i said yea fine, take some rest..its been three weeks since and she hasnt replied to my one text that i sent her asking her to call me when she gets a chance and a facebook message in which i asked her if she was free last sunday. I am not in love with her but i feel rejected by someone who was chasing ME all this time.i find it hard to understand why she would dissappear on me like that..i am 25 and she is 31 by the way.. any advice? what do you guys think? thanks From what I understand, it seems like she was digging for your attention, finally got it after throwing herself at you via those mini dates, cake, etc., and now that she knows she's got you, she no longer wants you. She's like a child. Begging for a toy, and then not being interested in playing with it after mommy and daddy buy it for her.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 so here is how it goes.i met this girl at a friends birthday party a couple of months ago , she started chasing me since that day , added me to facebook and wanted to make plans.after a couple of weeks we went out for a few drinks and every thing went so well.the week after it was my birthday and she texted me asking that if she could to be my birthday date, i liked the idea and said yes. this girl bought me an expensive birthday cake that she brought to my party.everything went so well again and than she made plans to see me right next day. she came over the next day, went for a movie and made out for a while. and than she made another plan for the day after saying that she wants to come along with me to this boxing fight that i was going too. next day i text her and she says she wouldnt be able to come since she has a bad headache and asked me if it was ok..i said yea fine, take some rest..its been three weeks since and she hasnt replied to my one text that i sent her asking her to call me when she gets a chance and a facebook message in which i asked her if she was free last sunday. I am not in love with her but i feel rejected by someone who was chasing ME all this time.i find it hard to understand why she would dissappear on me like that..i am 25 and she is 31 by the way.. any advice? what do you guys think? thanks This is easy; since you were on the receiving end of her attention, turn it around and do some pursuing of your own. See how she responds.
Author Toon666 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 It just seems so strange and weird that she disappeared. I guess I I'll just let it go and will find someone better.. Thanks guys
joeLove Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Just out of curiosity, what made you accept all these suggestions she was making about dates and things to do? Was it because you didn't have anyone else or was it because you had started developing something for her ... Do you even care enough about her to "chase" her at all?
Author Toon666 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Well I was not seeing anyone at that time and in the beginning after our first meeting I wasn't even bothered.. She got in touch with that mutual friend at who's birthday we met an told her that she liked me and she was the one who set stuff up between us.. I wasn't too bothered to be honest and I made sure that there were other friends there when I saw her next just cuz I wasn't sure.. She invited all the common friends to her place and we chilled.. And than after she added me on facebook and private messaged me there asking if I was free the following weekend..the most weird part of the whole situation is that everytime I saw her she complemented my looks and kept saying I was The Perfect guy.. I found that strange at that time cuz it was so early on in the relationship..confused!!
UT_longhorn Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Toon...you know the saying..actions speak louder than words. When a woman is interested, she will let you know. Move forward. You don't need that type of behavior from a woman. if you've come correct to her..then you have nothing to regret. you did your part...was a man about it..now you can move on with your head up.
Wings1068 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Funny... my post is also about 2 women doing pretty much the same thing... sorry I have no advice but it seems to be the thing these days
Eddie Edirol Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 It just seems so strange and weird that she disappeared. I guess I I'll just let it go and will find someone better.. Thanks guys She dissappeared because she knew you were falling for her. No one should fall in love that fast..you killed her attraction to you because you killed the challenge for your heart. Gotta make her work harder next time. Also since she is older she probably just wanted you for young sex. Now she found someone else to give her attention to, most likely because they will not fall in love with her so fast. Heres the lesson, be sure she wants to be in a full fledged relationship with you before you fall for someone. Dont assume you should let yourself go because they get you a few gifts.
grkBoy Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 She disappeared because she's immature and probably insecure. Had many women do that. They're hot and heavy for me, but the moment I show them affection they run for the hills. That or another guy catches their fancy and I'm tossed away so they can pursue new guy. Move on. You've left enough means for her to find you. Unless she ended up unconscious in the hospital, she's not responding to you on purpose. PLUS...I don't agree with the notion that she would just buy him gifts and lavish him with attention for no reason. I personally think she freaked out and ran to her "safe spot". Probably loaded with baggage and damage. I speak from experience with many "hot and cold" women.
snug.bunny Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Sounds like she was a hot fish the entire time, and you were, well....a cold fish. :/
samspade Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 She wanted you to stick it in her and you didn't. Next time, strike while the iron is hot.
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