seekingknowledge Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Hi all, So my bf of 4 years broke up with me the end of May. We had attended a marriage conference and were talking marriage for about a year. The conference was over and the next day he broke up with me. He's 30 next month and there are people (his family and friends) who believe this is his mid life crisis. When he broke up with me he told me he loves me and doesn't want to loose me and I am his best friend and he doesn't want to live his life with out me in it. He dragged his heels on getting is crap, he hasn't ended financial things with me (bank accounts, debt, loans etc) he refuses to sign the dog over to my name but also refuses to have anything to do with her. Not sure what to think of these actions... I have had no contact what so ever with him for a month (I initiated it). He's no longer on my friends on facebook (though he can still see my profile) he's not in my phone or email anymore. We have mutual friends that I have gone for coffee with and have kept in touch with over the last couple of months that have told me he keeps asking about me and what I'm up to...He has sent emails and texts and stuff that includes some reference about me and my life. Now he's on dating sites and is meeting a lot of new people and he is also telling them he is moving on. Now my question is this; I am curious how to take this information? I mean he hasn't contacted me but what would you think about him asking about me and stuff? Does him dragging his heels to end things with me mean anything? I have been told he regrets his decision and he wants me back be he has made such a mess that he doesn't really know how... I am living my life and going out having fun, making friends, I am not sitting on my couch and pinning but I do love this man. Anyway any advice would be appreciated
wilsonx Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 How do you take that information? You drop the mutual friends for coffee. No contact is no contact. Period. My friend sent me a pic of my ex and her 37 year old bf the other day, although I laughed at it, it really pissed me off, not the fact that I saw it, the fact that she sent it to me. I did a temporary backslide for about 10-12 hours but right back at where I am today, strong, confident and enjoying being single. Fix all the financial stuff now. If you have to break NC for it then do it. Keep it short and professional that way you give him 0 excuse down the road to try and sneak back into your life. Straight block him on facebook. He doesn't need to be looking at your profile and you dont need to be looking at his... You can if you dont block it. Right now it does not matter if he regrets it or not. He left you and ended the relationship. Do you really I mean really want him back. Imagine ok he comes back and you get back together. What happens when you get pregnant this time and he pulls the same stunt? Go out and look for someone thats obviously more reliable.
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