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I've been seeing this guy for 4-5 months but we didn't really start "dating" until recently. Even so, I'm moving away in less than a month so we're not really "together."

 

Ever since we admitted our feelings to each other a month and a half or so ago, I've been feeling like I've been doing a lot of the work. I feel like I always take the initiative to hang out or communicate in between hang outs.

 

Recently we hung out on a Thursday. I spent the night at his place and left on Friday. Later that evening, I texted him to see how his day with his friend went. He didn't respond. At first I figured that maybe he A.) didn't get it or B.) left his phone at a friend's house (that's happened before) but it's Sunday and I still haven't heard from him.

 

A part of me thinks I should contact him but the other part of me feels like if he really did get the text and just isn't answering, I don't want to be the one to contact him AGAIN. And even if he DIDN'T get the text, I just don't like that we go for so long without talking (now two days) unless I make the effort.

 

What should I do? Should I contact him again or just wait until he finally contacts me? The only reason I'd want to contact him is because I have limited time left in the city until I move away for a year. But I don't want to contact him if he's just over it, seeing someone else, or just not that into me. Should I be worried if he got the text and isn't texting/calling me back? Me taking the initiative to hang out doesn't really bother me because that's how it's been for a while and things have been fine. It's just annoying a bit now.

Thanks!

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What should I do?

 

Call, don't text. If he doesn't answer, leave a message that invites him to call back.

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Sounds to me like you both need to have a serious talk .. NOT a text-exchange. STOP the texting ... and talk

 

So, initiate the talk and make it known how you feel ...

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Hello,

 

Thanks for the advice. Still no word so I'm finally going to call him today after work and see what's up.

 

The only thing I can think of that might have gone wrong is that he thinks I'm using him or something. When I went over to his house Thursday, I was a little intoxicated. Not bad AT ALL but just happy. I feel like he thinks I may have contacted him that night just to sleep with him. I really did just want to sleep WITH him, as in cuddling and having him there, but it did end up where we did more.

 

Although everything was fine the next morning, I just think that maybe he thinks that that's the only reason I called him or something. And then I left about an hour or so after we woke up. (I left mainly because I had to- was meeting with a friend- but also because he was doing laundry while I was sleeping so I sort of felt like I was in the way and he'd mentioned getting together with one of his friends. I felt like I was keeping him/didn't want to keep him any longer if he needed to go/get ready too.)

 

I really do wish I never would have called him on Thursday but it's too late. I think/hope that we just need to talk and that if he is upset about that, we can straighten everything out and I can explain that that's really not why I went over there and that I really did have to leave in the morning for other reasons.

 

We'll see how it goes today.

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