superinflamo Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) I'm new to the forum, but I want to share my experience with you guys. Though you guys are strangers, I think you care enough to help. Here it is: I've been with this girl for 5 years. She and I were very co-dependent. However, there was a patch of time when I emotionally abused her. She did the same with me. However, after that time, I've been getting better and she's been loving me. She wanted me to meet her family and they loved me. We had sex midway through our relationship, and she was a virgin. In her last relationship, she was cheated on by the guy with her best friend. She's always been there for me, calling me, being happy with me, texting me, excited to see me. We live within 15 minutes of each other, so we see each other throughout the week. She promised she will always love me and that no matter what these feelings could never go away. She wanted to marry me and have kids. However, just recently, she told me she doesn't love me. And that she misses me when I'm not there, but when I am, she wants to be away. I've been very upset lately, and been focusing on my own problems and futures. I guess I've been adding to her already stressful life. A week earlier, she said that she wishes I wasn't so dependent, and because of her and this relationship I've lost myself. She said that the only solution she can think of is taking a break so I can find myself. I told her I'll find another to fix it, another solution. I didn't and we had another small fight leading to the huge event. She told me she wants a break. But I couldn't help but contacting her and begging her to come back, and she finally said she's had it. She wants to break up. She also said that when she closes her eyes, she still sees a future with me. But she can't keep on going. She doesn't love me anymore. She said she's done. However, she's a very emotional persona and a very sensitive one at that. I dont know how much of this she means. But the more I try to get her back, the further I push her away. I've decided to stop contacting her. My question is whether this 5 year relationship is really gone forever, or is this a bump down the long road ahead? Edited July 24, 2011 by superinflamo
redflag Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 mate, you really need to give her space. text her once saying you realise that you had become too dependant and that it was just cos you love her, tell her you are gonna take some time away to deal with it then just leave her alone. in this time work on your own life and give it a few weeks to see if she calls, if not get in touch but dont be too pushy just ask how she is. you gotta show her you can back off a bit. good luck mate
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