His phone is off all night :((

[xImpyx]

For the past two weeks I have been at home visiting fammily,two hours from where my boyfriend lives. He had his phone off all night every single night of those two weeks apart from one. He wouldent give me any excuses just ignore my questions with a 'arggh il explain later' or muddle his way out of telling me. I am now back in my place 40 minutes from his and I asked him to see me today but he made up the excuse that the hostle he lives at currently (hes waiting for his own place) was doing 'activities' all day and he couldent see me, they have never held activities all day to my knowledge before, just a food group once a week and a morning group of some sort. Anyway we have argued all day as usual.Me crying and demanding to know why he turns his phone off all night and why he wont see me today. He turned it off again tonight at 6.30 pm, I know there is no point turning up at his hostle tonight as they dont allow visitors after 12 and he wont be there I know it.he wasnt last time I went. He tells me he loves me and sounds so sincere etc but I cant understand why he would have his phone off all night if he wasnt cheating? I know he has had an on off problem with drugs for years (which I hate it has given me deppression worrying about him ) but he is skint so how could he afford to go off and do drugs every night and why would he need his phone off? Im tempted to turn up there early in the morning and see if I can see him going back in the hostle and try to get his phone off him or something stupid like that please help me sort this out xxx

[Lucky_One]

Anyway we have argued all day as usual.

 

 

It doesn't matter WHY he is cutting his phone off. It just matters that he IS cutting his phone off. If you argue all day as usual, then what is the point of even being in a relationship with someone you can't trust and who makes you unhappy?

[alexandria35]

For the past two weeks I have been at home visiting fammily,two hours from where my boyfriend lives. He had his phone off all night every single night of those two weeks apart from one. He wouldent give me any excuses just ignore my questions with a 'arggh il explain later' or muddle his way out of telling me. I am now back in my place 40 minutes from his and I asked him to see me today but he made up the excuse that the hostle he lives at currently (hes waiting for his own place) was doing 'activities' all day and he couldent see me, they have never held activities all day to my knowledge before, just a food group once a week and a morning group of some sort. Anyway we have argued all day as usual.Me crying and demanding to know why he turns his phone off all night and why he wont see me today. He turned it off again tonight at 6.30 pm, I know there is no point turning up at his hostle tonight as they dont allow visitors after 12 and he wont be there I know it.he wasnt last time I went. He tells me he loves me and sounds so sincere etc but I cant understand why he would have his phone off all night if he wasnt cheating? I know he has had an on off problem with drugs for years (which I hate it has given me deppression worrying about him ) but he is skint so how could he afford to go off and do drugs every night and why would he need his phone off? Im tempted to turn up there early in the morning and see if I can see him going back in the hostle and try to get his phone off him or something stupid like that please help me sort this out xxx

 

What do you mean by hostle? Why would the hostle's daily activities interfer with his ability to leave and come see you? What kind of hostle is this? Is it a rehab? a halfway house? By your post it sounds like he is living in some kind of controlled enviorment where he is not free to come and go as he pleases. He is also a drug addict. I suspect that he has ended up at a hostle due to some poor decisions of his own doing. If this is the case he is probably not a good bet for a long term relationship. People can change and get better but it doesn't sound like he is far enough along in his recovery and it's probably not a good idea to be seriously involved with him.