prospec Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) Thats right she ended it and it’s been a month after a 2 year relationship. As soon as she ended it i went on a ruthless rampage without contact, man let me tell you there were nights when i felt like nothing, but then i stuck to my guns. Follow what i did cut off all communications everything i mean everything. If u have to rip your heart out and grab it up high like a trophy do it, show no reaction no emotion. i hit the gym and found other things and started reading all kinds of empowerment articles. Don’t feel down trust me man. I got the power back and now i know i can cope without her she will come back at a time u least expect .Do not give up plzzzzzzzzzzz , trust me she will be back. Im a new man and the next step is yes i want her but ...... do i really..... Only time will tell. Guys get the power back, if u chase after it you won’t get anywhere Edited July 24, 2011 by prospec
English-Rose Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Good for you, hope it all works out for you both and you are very happy :) I too am in a nc situation but doubt he will be back in a million years! Or indeed now if I would really even want to!
Author prospec Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 thank you so much , really appreciate it. the key is to focus on yourself and just let all the bitterness and other negative energy in your life go. i cant say for my situation that things will be good because there is a lot of broken pieces that i might not want to pick up, . But the most important thing is love and appreciation of life with out the need to be comforted by an ex who may or may not care. if you over come the fear of being alone and are ready to move forward. its only then your ex may contact you. remember i didnt use it as for her to get back. i used it to move on. find a happy place in your life and you will be alright.
ScienceGal Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Good for you! I am doing NC as well... I hope this works for women too.... Or I meet the man of my dreams while I'm waiting... whichever
Author prospec Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 it works for every one theres no tricks . Just be honest and true with yourself no matter how much it hurts if you can just let everything go only then he may contact you an if he doesn't you will be alright anyway cos like u said man of your deams will come
English-Rose Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I'm doing it to move on too. I admit at first I wondered if it'd get him back but I'm not focussing on that now. I want to feel stronger for me and me alone!
Author prospec Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 thats the way forward, you will feel stronger take each day as it comes , i kept myself busy , keep your mind on other things as it helps a lot .
English-Rose Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I'm definitely a big fan of nc. I feel much better now he's not actually a part of my life. He used to contact me almost daily as well as phoning and turning up unannounced at my office so I was always on edge. Now I'm not and it's much better. He never had any intention of trying to get me back, I realise that now. He just hadn't let go either and there were still too many unfinished emotions between us. I've done us both a favour in the long run by going nc. I think he'll be happier too now he's not able to check in with me. I'm sure it annoyed him at first (he contacted me after 8 days and ignored him) but there's been no contact since. Today is (count on fingers cos not sure....) day 18. Almost 3 weeks and it's flown in
sleepykitten Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 2 weeks after i went nc, did break it to text happy b/day didnt want or expect a reply, but he called the following day to say he had really been struggling, he was finding it so hard etc, he thought it would get better but its worse and he doesnt know why. I just thought, well for the first few weeks he just went out drinking, having fun, i was texting, calling, e mailing, wanting answers, something, then i stopped, i told him the reason i was behaving and feeling like this wasnt due to him but to unresolved issues i have that i need to finally face so i can move on and not repeat this same cycle in another relaationship, i didnt want to be in a situation again where i wasnt strong enough to leave no matter how bad things got." Then i went nc, and that apparently is wheen he "struggled" i didnt know what to say, just "look after yourself" i think he expected me to say, come round, i miss you too, or something as thats what i did in the past. Going back to nc he called thurs, now sunday, i have found it hard speaking to him, knowing he;s unhappy makes me want to make him better, but of course i'm not going to do that. I am finally in these past few weeks, finding myself, and doing what i should have done yrs ago.
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