Ajax Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Sounds like she's a real winner. Just when you think she's as shallow as she can get, she manages to skim a little more off the top of the pool. How did this mutual friend respond to her?
Author Benched Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 Ggirl - i respect that. It's nice to see that some girls still respect themselves and dont just hop around from guy to guy. You'd think that being with someone for a number of years...that they'd at least feel a bit of remorse for moving on so quick. To be honest, I dont know how long you were with your ex, but I'm positive anyone would get jealous knowing you have those kind of standards. His loss and the next guys gain. Carhill - I think you hit the nail on the head on pretty much every subject. The only thing I'm a bit confused about is the rubber band part. It might seem like a great life lesson and I most likely am a glutton for punishment, but I'd love to see her run back one more time so that I can end this on my terms and tell her she's ruined a good thing. I guess part of this hope is built on the fact that I'm feeling extremely guilty for absolutely nothing and that she took most of my worth with her when she left. Id like to get it (my worth) back on my own....but it would be sweeter if it was from the person that walked out on me. Ajax. My brother. How are you holding up pal? To answer your question, the friend told her honestly that I'm looking good. I am trying to be very cautious about what I say to mutual friends. I guess I just dont want to get hurt any more. I trust this mutual friend greatly, but they are much closer than we are and i feel like even innocently, things might be relayed to give my ex more confidence than she deserves. This person doesn't agree with what my ex did at all and has made it clear that my ex is aware of this, no matter of how deep their friendship is. When i first heard she was asking about me I was curious but I held back on asking anymore questions about her.
Author Benched Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 She kind of sounds like the type of girl that likes to string you along. Also, sooner or later, she's gonna realize that what she did to you was pretty crappy and she'll probably contact you to ease her own guilt. This is really unfair. And you called it. I think shes been that type of girl since I've met her. Like i said. I wouldn't mind her having regret over throwing me away like this. It most likely will never happen. But i'd definitely prefer her to feel sorry than doing it only to relieve her own guilt.
Author Benched Posted August 30, 2011 Author Posted August 30, 2011 (edited) One last update, most likely for a while unless anyone else replies. Sorry for the triple post. I found out even worse news today. Sounds like her and her new guy friend got pretty serious quickly. Not sure if any more details matter, but it hasnt even been a quarter of a year since the dumping. Im still in shock and trying to put this behind me. I still dream about her too often and wake up with an empty feeling in my chest. I still feel like I wasn't good enough for her. At this point, I dont even want reconciliation. I just want to feel like I was worth it and I want to hear it from her own lips. This most likely sounds very typical from many posters on this board, but I still dont know what to do in this specific situation. I've tried everything to move on and I still find myself worrying about something I had no control over. Edited August 30, 2011 by Benched
coltsfan1 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 you have to accept it, only option. Trust me you can move forward, but it will hurt. I have been in healing since Aug. of 2010, you have to realize she has either A-moved on, B-changed, or C-was never a decent person to begin with.
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