mywreckedworld54 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Ok so I did the whole NC thing for 2 months and then decided to try something and I think it worked. Now she wrote me back and I am trying to work my way back with her. I wanted to share our emails with ya'll and try and see what the next move should be by me. Thank you for any good info. The first one is what I sent her and the second is what she sent back. Hey I just wanted to tell you a few things before I left *********. First thing is I agree on our break up. It was not going anywhere at all, and now I feel like I have many more options, more now than ever. I also wanted to tell you I am not angry and have no animosity toward you in any way. Another thing is that don't let what happened between us ruin friendships that you had with people before we even got together. I know you think some people hate you or are pissed at you or whatever but it is not true, because I have talked to them and told them everything is better now. I hope you don't think I am the devil or an awful person or are scared of me, because I don't feel that way toward myself, I was just in a bad spot in my life and reacted irrationally. Write me back if you feel, even though I will probably not hear from you. Here is what she wrote me back Hi, you have no idea how glad I am to hear that from you! I was not scared of you, I was just scared for you I guess. I'm still sorry things went down they way they did, but I am so happy you are doing well. If you don't mind me asking, where are you moving to? I know they don't hate me, I just freaked out I guess. I'm really glad you know you have options and your life is going to be great without me. I knew eventually we could talk and hopefully be friends. It would be a shame to waste what good of a friendship you and I had. It's great to hear you are doing well =) Any advice on the next move? Thank you for any advice and I will take everything just as a suggestion but I just need them thats all, thanks.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I'm assuming you wrote this letter because a "get your ex back" program instructed you to... Her response shows literally no emotional attachment to you at all. And I suspect this letter has lifted every bit of guilt she had from dumping you so the most you will get out of this is a friendship. Only advice I can give is wait a few days before replying, if you reply at all.
Author mywreckedworld54 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Ok so here is what I think I am going to write her back, any advice? Is this good or bad? Thanks, I am doing good, but unfortunately right now would not be the best time to tell you where I moved to. But I moved for good reason, I got a 48g a year job where I moved. You still at the bookstore or did you go somewhere else? When does that new one open up there? I sort of have a new perspective on things nowadays and am thinking more clearly now than ever. I have sort of given up on love for awhile so I just figure in the mean time why not be filthy rich (lol). Anyhoo write me back if and when you get the chance. Oh and p.s. give those baby stinkys a hug and kiss for me I miss them mucho.
emby Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) I don't know if you've seen it, but this reminds me of 500 Days of Summer. When he's so excited to get that email off her, but when it comes it's all like "Hey so great to hear from you! I hope this means we can be friends now." I think that if you're friends with your ex, there can still be a possiblity of reconciliation, but I don't think she wants that right now and may not for a long time. Decide if you can be just friends with her for a long period of time, no matter who she's dating, and don't make your email reply too sentimental. If it would hurt you too much to be friends with her before you're over her, be honest with her and explain that if you can't be her only man, you can't be in her life. PS. Don't say you've given up on love!! Even if you have. The only thing she could possibly feel about that is pity. It's also saying to her that you've given up on her, and that's not true. You could say that you're focusing on yourself for a while though, but don't think that's going to stop her seeing anyone else if she wants to. Edited July 24, 2011 by emby
citrusdrop1688 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 I... dont think you should send that... it kinda says im still hung up on u cause im scarred by what happened and im willing to accept any interaction that ur willing to live
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