Author pink24 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 I wouldn't give him a second chance, personally. But I think it depends on your personality. I don't think it means he's a jerk or doesn't like you, necessarily (could but who knows?) but it would mean he and I would not be compatible as I could not deal with that kind of planning style. Yeah I see what you mean by not being compatable. But hey, his choice! He's going on holiday on tuesday so maybe he has thought hmmm do i really wanna go out on a date and get to know someone right before I go away.. I personally dont think I would becuase you never know whats gonna happen on holiday.. maybe thats why he blew me out
Rinas Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Yeah well as I said, the ball is in his court now. So I guess the choice is his. But hey, there is plenty more fish in the sea... Yeah I definetly think its his call, if he contacts fair enough and if not, next? Ha wish I had the confidence to actually follow it through. But I defo gotta take some of my own advice. Dating is all about just having fun and going with the moment, if you're comfortable with someone it'll come through eventually. Don't worry about confidence, it'll build up over time. If he doesn't give said rain check, next !
manders_01 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Totally maders 01, as soon as you feel hey, I'm feeling good and BAM your brought down a peg or two. But I suppose, you just gotta pull your big girl pants up and move on 'Summer of dating' ... great! How is it going? Eh, it's alright. I've been on 4 first dates, 3 second dates and 1 third date. I keep pluggin' away!
Author pink24 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Dating is all about just having fun and going with the moment, if you're comfortable with someone it'll come through eventually. Don't worry about confidence, it'll build up over time. If he doesn't give said rain check, next ! Ha he has just text me sayin 'I'm just home from my granparents we could hang out if you want? X' ... Hmmm I think I will wisely pass, he had his chance tonight. We shall see if he is so persistant....
Author pink24 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Eh, it's alright. I've been on 4 first dates, 3 second dates and 1 third date. I keep pluggin' away! Good for you manders 01 ... .. I hope I can get some dates under my belt that will build my confidence
manders_01 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Ha he has just text me sayin 'I'm just home from my granparents we could hang out if you want? X' ... Hmmm I think I will wisely pass, he had his chance tonight. We shall see if he is so persistant.... Now that, IMO, is a good decision.
Rinas Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Just don't play games, it's not fair either. Expect the same from him.
Dblock10 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 that sounds pretty lame from him from my point of view. who would rather go see there grandparents than some hottie that you met the night before... bail. if he persists and promises to take u somewhere nice and pick you up.. then sure give a second chance. otherwise, knock it on the head and get back out there ! i love how girls can meet guys soo easily. its harder being a guy trying to get a girl lol. seems like its always up to the girl wether its off or on or on or off x oh and if it develops rather quickly you can either go with the flow or really get to know the person, or you could be left feeling rather empty if you invest yourself too quickly and it doesn't materialise any more
Disillusioned Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 This sounds rather depressing, long as you're happy though! Not really depressing... I think of it as not giving someone else the opportunity to take advantage of me. It means having no one to ruin the life I'm building for myself. Older people don't understand... they see the way I live, and still wonder why I never invite women over to my house. Maybe back in those days, women actually knew how to appreciate being loved instead of trying to figure out how much wrongdoing they could get away with.
Author pink24 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 (edited) Ok everyone, we text back and forth all night last night. He said he really wanted to see me but had to visit them as he is going on holiday tonight. I don't know if I should text him today and wish him a nice holiday or if I should just leave it be? Oh there is too much to consider on this dating front LOL:D Edited July 25, 2011 by pink24 Spelling
manders_01 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Ok everyone, we text back and forth all night last night. He said he really wanted to see me but had to visit them as he is going on holiday tonight. I don't know if I should text him today and wish him a nice holiday or if I should just leave it be? Oh there is too much to consider on this dating front LOL:D Sure! I got the impression that you got the text last night pretty late which is why I said it was probably a good idea that you not meet him. But maybe you'll be able to see him before he leaves. Plus, even if you only want to casually date him, keeping contact, even minimal, while he's away, is a good idea.
Author pink24 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 Ahh manders01, thanks. I didn't bother texting him today. I thought I'll leave it and maybe drop him a text just saying basically, hope he's having fun & enjoying his holiday. I don't want to seem overly keen although, I don't want to give the impression that I'm not interested either. It is so hard to find a happy balance....
Dblock10 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Ahh manders01, thanks. I didn't bother texting him today. I thought I'll leave it and maybe drop him a text just saying basically, hope he's having fun & enjoying his holiday. I don't want to seem overly keen although, I don't want to give the impression that I'm not interested either. It is so hard to find a happy balance.... i wouldnt even do that if i were you. wait till he is back then ask him how it went. make it seem like you are too busy, you know hard to get
chelle21689 Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 I was with my ex (first bf) for 5 1/2 years and to my surprise I found someone that caught my eye in a month. We took things really slow and 5 months later still seeing each other.
Author pink24 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 i wouldnt even do that if i were you. wait till he is back then ask him how it went. make it seem like you are too busy, you know hard to get Yeah I see what you mean, I don't wanna give the impression of being overly interested but don't wanna show no interest. Oh dear... So you reckon I should let him go & enjoy his holiday then if he contacts fair enough and if not just let it be?
Author pink24 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 I was with my ex (first bf) for 5 1/2 years and to my surprise I found someone that caught my eye in a month. We took things really slow and 5 months later still seeing each other. Ahh chelle.. That's fantastic news! Happy for you to have met someone. I bet you didn't expect that? I went out on Saturday night with no expectations of meeting someone and I don't know what to think. I really liked the guy and was extremely attracted to him...but I don't know. Being in a relationship for 5+ years, dating and flirting and getting to know someone goes right out the window. I've been comfortable with the same person for sooooo long! Eeeeek!
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