Dblock10 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) Was with my gf for 7 months, she graduated uni and i have a few years left. She has gone back home now to work full time in order to save for her 6 months travelling which is in a month or so time. Currently she lives 4 hours from me. We both mutually came to an agreement that taking a break when she goes travelling would be best/easiest for both parties so we can avoid arguments and not ruin anything for good between us ( i guess end it on good terms is what she was getting at), and with the intention of meeting when she is back, and seeing how things go. at the time i thought that sounded good and i was happy with this and i thought we would carry on going out and showing the relationship status on facebook. However since that talk over the phone she never excepted my facebook relationship request and has been to busy to really bother with me, it is always me who calls or txts her first. and fair enough she is busy with work, but she gets time throughout the day off.. we have planned to meet this week coming to catch up etc and spend time together and also with the intention of organising my birthday weekend that we never got round to doing at the end of june.. when i spoke to her on the phone she had told me how she has been so busy, and then she went on to telling me about how she had spoke to this guy at work, i will refer to him as stuart. she was telling me how stuart was talking to her about how he was looking into male escort services to make money as its really good. and now she was thinking about doing it to as the money is big. oh and this talk was over a drink with him the other night... she sounded quite enthusiastic about this but not sure if she was being totally serious. i'm not stupid and I would consider this a date if it wasn't for the fact they work in a bar/restaurant together, so i hope there is nothing in it. I think she mentioned this guy used to go to her old school. and she didn't recognise him at first. either way she sounded pretty excited when talking to me about the "guys" at work had figured out she hates small insects and they thought it was hilarious to catch them and throw them at her... is she trying to make me jealous here? i think my plan of action is to save what i have to say to her in person, and gauge the whole situation. Id like to stay together and don't want the travelling situation to come between us. But if she dosnt want this now, then i guess ill be gutted. as what are the actual chances of us getting back together when she is back... small if you ask me. to much time and events would have passed by, there wouldn't be much to save. Edited July 24, 2011 by Dblock10
Ajax Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Frankly, Dblock, it sounds as if she's already checked out of the relationship and possibly exploring other options. In fact the whole idea of taking a break while she's gone seems to have in reality been her way of breaking up with you without actually having to get her hands dirty. Pretty cowardly if you ask me. Her behavior speaks for itself. Never initiating contact, talking about other guys, becoming an escort... While painful, I think you've already come to the logical conclusion. Cut your losses. In fact cut contact completely. Don't give her the chance to bail on you this weekend, which she is likely to do. Just tell her you realize that the relationship is over and that you need to move forward with your own life.
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