antinko Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 This is your biggest problem... NC is NC... dump all your ex's friends numbers/facebook/email accounts etc. Block them. You should not be hearing about whats going on in your ex's life and they should not be hearing about whats going on in your life. Its that simple. NC is not about your ex getting back together with you. Its about you healing and moving on. Im going to be the little devil on your shoulder right now and tell you that your ex is a piece of **** and you better not take him back. Second chances suck. Most of the time you are just a rebound for them if you do get one. The pain hurts way worse too when that ends. You want to focus on healing and move forward. Oh drop that friends crap. Why do you want to be friends with your ex? The only reason is because you still have feelings for em My challenge to you this upcoming week is go out and make 3 new friends and hang out with one of them by next Sunday. So you lost 1 friend, but you gained 3 more in one week. If you do this every week soon enough you will realize wow these people actually still want to hang out with me and my ex doesn't hmmmm his/her loss I'm going to undertake this challenge too.
Author fauxleather Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 This is your biggest problem... NC is NC... dump all your ex's friends numbers/facebook/email accounts etc. Block them. You should not be hearing about whats going on in your ex's life and they should not be hearing about whats going on in your life. Its that simple. NC is not about your ex getting back together with you. Its about you healing and moving on. Im going to be the little devil on your shoulder right now and tell you that your ex is a piece of **** and you better not take him back. Second chances suck. Most of the time you are just a rebound for them if you do get one. The pain hurts way worse too when that ends. You want to focus on healing and move forward. Oh drop that friends crap. Why do you want to be friends with your ex? The only reason is because you still have feelings for em My challenge to you this upcoming week is go out and make 3 new friends and hang out with one of them by next Sunday. So you lost 1 friend, but you gained 3 more in one week. If you do this every week soon enough you will realize wow these people actually still want to hang out with me and my ex doesn't hmmmm his/her loss Thanks for your reply dude but you seem to have misinterpreted the story a bit. I've no intentions to remain as friends or anything, the person who apologized was HER good guy friend. Im a guy! Haha.
Author fauxleather Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 Yeah I'll leave her friends alone considering nothing is set in stone yet and I'm not particularly close to any of them. I'm still thinking of contacting her though. But probably after I sort out my emotions first.
Chi townD Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 Well, sounds like her BFF was sent in to scope you out. The reason I say that is because 1 he asked you out to coffee to talk about whatever, then 2 asked about you still wanting to get back with the Ex. The Ex wanted her BFF to do the hard work to see how and if you still felt anything for her. When you met up and discussed other things other than your Ex. I'm sure he reported back, " Sorry girl, your name never came up. I think he's over you and not interested." Which is fine, because if she didn't have a set to do it herself, then she's not worth your time.
Author fauxleather Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 While i agree that i shouldn't really settle anything less than a proper asking from her to meet me up if she's serious, i still can't help but feel that she's already done a bit considering she's not the expressive sort that will take the initiative to chat up.
Chi townD Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Well, then that's her fault and how is that fair to you? I mean, if she can't express and communicate her feelings toward you now, that doesn't translate well in a relationship.
t_i Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 If she wants you back she'll get you back. Its not alot of effort to text you asking to meet up. That really is minimal effort. No matter how shy she is she can manage a few texts! I believe its the same with animals somtimes.... You cant let them get away with bad behaviour or they'll keep doing it. If they bf or gf cheats and gets away with it.... They'll keep doing it again wont they? My ex kept dumping me then commanding for me back. He knew he could get away with it so he did. If he ever wanted me back now I'd only consider it if he made a radical change and begged for me. Let her beg for you and proove shes worth trying again with!
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