zebrack25 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I'll make this a long story short because I'm not looking for any analysis as to what happened. The girl I thought was perfect for me "best-friended" me instead of dating me. She never rejected me, always telling me she had feelings but felt it wasn't the right time. All this came to a halt when she dated someone else. Here's where I should have bailed and realized she was never into me, but instead, I told her I was okay with being best friends with her. She said she felt horrible and she still had feelings for me, but had feelings for this guy as well. Lookin back, I can't believe I fell for this, but everyone who's ever liked someone knows how much over-analyzing is done. Her and that guy only lasted a month. For 9 months after, I stayed a best friend hoping she would realize I was the one that was always there for her. Eventually I decided to go No Contact for the purpose of getting her to like me. It worked somewhat as she kept texting and calling me, but something else happened. I realized I feel much better from an emotional standpoint without her in my life. This occured 3 months ago and from 3 months-1 month we slowly became more distant. For the past month, I've gone No Contact, and I was finally able to stop checking her Facebook. The longer I go without contact, the more I don't wish to speak with her. However, I find myself getting angrier and angrier at her when she comes into my mind, for treating me like **** for all this time and then picking another guy over me. I don't want to have anger towards her because that means I'm still thinking about her; I just want to be able to fully move on and see her as just another person. Any chance of friendship/dating is beyond repair at this point and I'm okay with that
Author zebrack25 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Just reading I didn't explain a lot. I'm looking for analysis to my questions, just not towards what her actions really meant. And during this time, she treated me like crap, but I put up with her and listened to her venting, which is why she called me her best friend. It was once I started standing up for myself that we started fighting more and more and I went complete NC
wilsonx Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 whats the question? what are you looking for analysis wise? I am a pro bestfriend/dater!
Author zebrack25 Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 Sorry, I wrote this when I was very tired. My question is do I still have a long ways to go in terms of healing and is it possible to fully get over her. I went from denial and now I'm feeling anger towards her, kind of feel like I'm going through the 5 stages of mourning lol. I'm only 21, so I know that I'm going to meet many more people, but am just scared I'll never feel as strong for someone else. Often I hear too much about people saying they've been stuck on the same person for many years or wanting to leave their significant other because they saw their old flame on a social networking site; I don't want that to happen to me as I've been through enough pain from this whole ordeal
ameriveaux Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 the issue i think here is that you fear that you will never get over her and if you will meet others; and i think the answer to that is yes. the thought of wither or not you will get over her yet remains to be seen; you could possibly never get over her. but i do think the possibility of meeting a new girl and greatly enjoying her company is good. just because you miss what you had with someone does not mean you cant enjoy a new person. just try not to take out any deep seated anger with the ex with the new girl . she and you both do not deserve that.
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