Hustle10 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I met a girl a few weeks back at a party that I was having at my place. She showed up with some mutual friends and we hit it off, exchanged numbers, etc. Since then we've gone out several times, and each time she seems eager and excited to go out; and she readily texts me afterwards with things like "thank you for tonight I had so much fun we need to go out again soon" or some variation there of. I don't really consider myself to be a shy person, I'm pretty outgoing and have a 'life of the party' attitude. Having said that, I was having a hard time getting a good read on where this was going so since we have been going out for several weeks, I decided to flat out ask her. Basically her response was that she thinks I'm a really cool guy but that it's "too early to know anything". What exactly am I supposed to take from that? My gut tells me to just freeze her out and if she comes around she does and if not no harm no foul. Thoughts?
Mr. Slim Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 After a few weeks that's an acceptable answer. Ask her out again. Just have a good time.
zengirl Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I met a girl a few weeks back at a party that I was having at my place. She showed up with some mutual friends and we hit it off, exchanged numbers, etc. Since then we've gone out several times, and each time she seems eager and excited to go out; and she readily texts me afterwards with things like "thank you for tonight I had so much fun we need to go out again soon" or some variation there of. I don't really consider myself to be a shy person, I'm pretty outgoing and have a 'life of the party' attitude. Having said that, I was having a hard time getting a good read on where this was going so since we have been going out for several weeks, I decided to flat out ask her. Basically her response was that she thinks I'm a really cool guy but that it's "too early to know anything". What exactly am I supposed to take from that? My gut tells me to just freeze her out and if she comes around she does and if not no harm no foul. Thoughts? It's only been a few weeks, some people are cautious, and most girls are taught "not to scare guys away" --- I wouldn't really worry, as that seems like a pretty standard answer for "Let's keep going out!" Unless she is giving off some kind of weird, cold vibe that isn't recorded in your message, I see nothing wrong. She seems to be giving encouragement and such. The better way to deal with getting things moving seriously is not to ASK a girl (most girls are well-trained not to ask for serious too soon; I'm not, really, but I understand the psychology and that I'm an exception) but rather to tell her that you want to be serious and exclusive with her, if that's the case. Actually, even usual-girl-reactions aside, it's always kind of bull**** to ASK someone where the relationship is going unless you've already TOLD them where YOU want it to go. It's the coward's way out of that conversation. So, not knowing what you told her first, that seems like a normal answer. If you poured your heart out completely and spelled out for her that you wanted something serious, and she said that, I'd say a different thing (still not necessarily horrible, but she's holding back for different reasons) than if you didn't.
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