vballtay Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) So I had a male friend fall for me a few years ago. He asked me to be his girlfriend but I wasn't in to him like that, so I politely declined. He started dating someone else, and I began to have feelings for him . However, we fell out of contact and eventually I started dating someone else as well. A few months ago, we started talking again , at the very end of my ex's and I's relationship. Once I broke up with my ex, he started coming onto me again . It was only a few weeks before he was saying how he wanted me to be his girlfriend, and was willing to wait for me to be completely over my ex before he asked me. He told friends and family about me, we did a bunch of things together, he told me he REALLY liked me.. and one night we were getting heated and when I told him I wanted to go all the way, he.. wait for it.. told me "not tonight, I don't think you understand how much I really like you". Now, the relationship between my ex and I is an entirely different story, but even though it its most definitely over, it has left me extremely UN-trusting to men in general and scared to become too emotionally attached to someone else for fear of them hurting me too. So while I really liked this guy, I was scared and it was too soon. So I asked him if we could be just like, a friends with benefits or something, bc in my dumb mind at the time, I thought I would get less hurt that way. So we fell into that routine. I think I'm ready to actually be in something real with this guy. But, when I asked him if he still had those feelings for me, he told me that he had more physical feelings for me eight now than emotional, but that he wasnt really emotionally tied to anyone right now. Which left me kind of like.. oh.. I know this may sound dumb but, is there any way I can remind him of how great he used to think I was ? I know I have that POTENTIAL to be girlfriend material, seeing as he used to see me that way.. twice. I REALLY have feelings for this guy but the timing never seems to work out.. and I'm sure I'm not the only one thats been or is in this situation. Is there anything I can do ? I understand you can't make someone like you but how does that work when they've had those feelings for you in the past ? Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you ! Edited July 24, 2011 by vballtay
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