Coil Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) I have witnessed A LOT of people coming out of the woodwork lately with lies, half truths, and misinformation to ruin a relationship that is about 2 months old. These efforts have mostly been directed toward the female. I am talking about 2 people who know a lot of different people (they are in the public eye more than normal your average joe) & in a more rural area with 2 families who know a lot of people, as both families have owned businesses in the area. Both of these people can be considered attractive and are on the right path to being successful in life. Both individuals were raised quite a bit differently. The female has always been super straight in life and the male was wilder growing up. Partied as a teen / in college mostly and was always responsible and tried to maintain a lower profile. For the past few years the male has rarely drank except a few odd times such as something like New Years Eve. The male is not interested in this lifestyle anymore. The female is aware of this past from the male and seems to be ok with the past, as long as it is not reality now. It is important for this female that she not date someone who is wild, and people seem to be aware of this. It seems that A LOT of different people who are making these efforts the male would have considered friendly before this. They are making the male sound as if he is currently way wilder than he could have ever dreamed of being when he was wild. These efforts seem continuous and coming on heavy by A LOT of different individuals. The male is willing to discuss all accusations and submit to a drug/alcohol test at any time. So any recent partying claims could be proven as lies. There are accusations that the male is a ladies man, has many girlfriends, etc. When in fact he has only actually dated 2 women in the past 7 years. Understandably the guy or the accusers could be the liars in this situation as far as the female should see it. No way that I can think of to prove either way it seems Communication is still open and the goal has always been to take things slow in the relationship to build a proper foundation. It seems these things will continue on with these meddling people and I cannot help but think that it could have a negative effect on the relationship. Maybe time is the only way to prove things. There is a lot of chemistry in this relationship and it would probably be perfect if it were not for this meddling. Also worth mentioning is that both families have individuals who can be considered enemies or individuals who hate them as a whole, but not all of the accusations are coming from known enemies. I welcome outside advice and opinions as I have nobody that I could realistically discuss this with in real life. I realize that things are NEVER simple in my life. I apologize for the broad descriptions and lack of some specific detail as there was an agreement to keep the specific details a secret between us. I may be able to fill in some blanks as we go. Both people are in their 30's. Thank you for taking the time to read this and for all feedback. Edited July 24, 2011 by Coil
SteelWall Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 It's because there are not that many interesting people in this world. lol. It is true. And many boring average people like to watch interesting people burn. I have always had a problem with people invading my personal space....not physically but just too darned curious. it gets to a point where I feel I should get paid for this....all the interest...nosiness....and general assumptions which are WRONG!
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