kimberwick Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 About a year ago my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and totally broke my heart. The reason he gave was because he didn't want to hurt me anymore and didn't have those feelings he thought he should have for me. I accepted his reason at the time and went about trying to move on. He insisted on being friends and we kept in contact. Every time we talked he insisted he did the right thing whether it was brought up or not. Most of the time the subject was brought up by him and I started to wonder who he was trying to convince me or him. I went through months of him telling me he misses me and still thinks about me but yet on the other hand he still made the right decision. It finally got to the point where I finally told him I couldn't take it anymore. I told him I didn't want to hear how much he missed me and thought about me anymore to please quit saying it to me. Unfortunately for me he works where I have an account so I have to go in there from time to time. Although he never goes overboard or harasses me he flirts with me when I go in. Then he started telling me he loves me and will always love me till the day he dies. I had figured awhile after we broke up that the reason he gave me for the breakup wasn't the truth. He keeps insisting he did it for his own reasons and that there are things I don't know about him. I am not sure what could be so bad he can't tell me but I am to the point that I really don't care anymore. He talks about me like I am the best thing since sliced bread to me and other people and then the last time we talked on the phone he lays on me that I am the best girlfriend he has ever had and that he doesn't think he will ever find anyone like me again. Why even lay that kind of burden on me. I didn't break up with him in the first place. He broke up with me. I don't understand and he has made it so hard to get over him. He wants to stay friends but he keeps saying stuff like that. I feel like he is holding on to me just in case things don't work out for him down the road that he can come back to me after he is done leaving his trail of broken hearts. He was married for 20+ years prior to us dating and she left him for his best friend. Sometimes I wonder if he has put me and her on such a high pedal-stool that he doesn't want that image damaged. He finally seems to see how she really is so is that why maybe he thinks he made the right decision with us? But why even say those things to me why can't we just talk and I not have to hear that he loves me. Should I just sever all ties?
Almond_Joy Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I really think you should Kimber. Continuing contact with him is just going to keep your emotions about the situation out of whack. You need an extended amount of time - weeks, months even - without him in your life to see how YOU feel about the whole thing. This is no longer about what he wants. He can sing your praises until pigs fly, but if you don't trust him a resumed relationship will not work. If he really respects you, he will give you the space that you ask for.
wilsonx Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Im sorry kimberwick that he is playing these silly games with you. You should sever all ties immediately and start moving on. Do whatever it takes. He's being a dick and he knows it. He's trying to string you along just incase what he has does not work. Do not allow him to text, call email or anything. You need to go complete No Contact and do whatever you need to do to move on emotionally from him.
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