kujaeast Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 Hi guys n' gals... I was wondering if anyone could offer me some advice... Well, I met this girl on a dating website. We really hit it off! Spent hours chatting...And ended up finding eachother on facebook... Things are going really well so I plucked up my courage and asked her out for a coffee. I thought to myself, we've already broke the ice online, so meeting would be easier for both of us. So, I asked her and she accepted! It felt so great! I'm only recently trying to get myself out there after my 8 year relationship ended. I'm not putting everything on this... but I'd like to have a good time, and see where it goes. But, my dilemma is... I've never actually been on a date... I mean, I met my ex when I was 15, and anything before that doesn't really count. So, here I am 8 years later without a clue what to do or say! I mean, I'm sure we will have things to talk about but I just worry cause I feel so nervous I don't want to ruin my chance! I thought maybe a coffee would be a good idea, nice quiet location...somewhere to sit and chat... But, thats all I got... Is there things I should and shouldn't do? I mean, I can think of the obvious... paying for the drinks, holding doors etc...But, I'm so much out of the loop with it all, I'm just worried I'll wreck everything! Thanks in advance! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Slim Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 You'll be fine. Yes, pay for the coffee, it was your idea and it costs next to nothing. Don't dominate the conversation or talk excessively about yourself. Other than that just be yourself. You've already been chatting so this should be easy. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 If this is your first date in years then I don't think it's worth trying to remember loads of 'advice' from strangers on the Internet. Accept that it probably won't go perfectly and also that perfection isn't required or expected. Talk but also listen. Try to have fun. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kujaeast Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 Thanks for your replies guys... Well, I recently found out that this girl has another date before we're gonna meet...He's gonna take her to the zoo! I feel kinda inferior only taking her for coffee... Should I feel nervous? What do you girls think? Does it matter more about location? God this dating stuff is hard Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 She told you she is going on a date beforehand? That's odd. I would ask her to reschedule for a day she has NO OTHER DATES. Goodness. I wonder if she's booked one for after yours as well. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 (edited) Hi guys n' gals... I was wondering if anyone could offer me some advice... Well, I met this girl on a dating website. We really hit it off! Spent hours chatting...And ended up finding eachother on facebook... Things are going really well so I plucked up my courage and asked her out for a coffee. I thought to myself, we've already broke the ice online, so meeting would be easier for both of us. So, I asked her and she accepted! It felt so great! I'm only recently trying to get myself out there after my 8 year relationship ended. I'm not putting everything on this... but I'd like to have a good time, and see where it goes. But, my dilemma is... I've never actually been on a date... I mean, I met my ex when I was 15, and anything before that doesn't really count. So, here I am 8 years later without a clue what to do or say! I mean, I'm sure we will have things to talk about but I just worry cause I feel so nervous I don't want to ruin my chance! I thought maybe a coffee would be a good idea, nice quiet location...somewhere to sit and chat... But, thats all I got... Is there things I should and shouldn't do? I mean, I can think of the obvious... paying for the drinks, holding doors etc...But, I'm so much out of the loop with it all, I'm just worried I'll wreck everything! Thanks in advance! the worst thing that can happen is you don't get along together and you wind up right back where you started from before you met her, which obviously didn't kill you because you're typing this. relax. and yeah, telling you she had another date before yours on the same day pretty much tells me the type you're dealing with. she's gonna be completely self centered and borderline delusional, she sees men as something that she shops for like she shops for dresses and shoes. so don't expect much. Edited July 24, 2011 by thatone Link to post Share on other sites
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