torn_curtain Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Some of these traits don't always go together, as there are different forms of weakness: 1) He tries hard to please everyone, seems to think he is responsible for the happiness of friends and family, and panics at times when he can't achieve this. 2) He avoids conflicts at all costs. Debating of any sort, even friendly debate, makes him extremely uncomfortable. Instead of engaging in any kind of argument he will simply agree to disagree or not even state his opinion. 3) He has a history of involvement with bitchy women who use or mistreat him and is usually the dumpee. 4) He also has a history of falling in love many times. He doesn't seem to be especially picky about what he likes in a woman. 5) You are in a LTR with him and he has never or very rarely complained about anything you've ever done. 6) His response to you pulling back a bit is to get extremely clingy. 7) He's not there for you when a major life crisis or responsibility comes up. 8) He has a history of stringing girls along 9) He never gets angry 10) He is always cutting himself down
123321 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Well 5, 8, 9 are me to some degree, I never knew all this time. Thanks.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Some of these traits don't always go together, as there are different forms of weakness: 1) He tries hard to please everyone, seems to think he is responsible for the happiness of friends and family, and panics at times when he can't achieve this. 2) He avoids conflicts at all costs. Debating of any sort, even friendly debate, makes him extremely uncomfortable. Instead of engaging in any kind of argument he will simply agree to disagree or not even state his opinion. 3) He has a history of involvement with bitchy women who use or mistreat him and is usually the dumpee. 4) He also has a history of falling in love many times. He doesn't seem to be especially picky about what he likes in a woman. 5) You are in a LTR with him and he has never or very rarely complained about anything you've ever done. 6) His response to you pulling back a bit is to get extremely clingy. 7) He's not there for you when a major life crisis or responsibility comes up. 8) He has a history of stringing girls along 9) He never gets angry 10) He is always cutting himself down 11) He dates women who are much lower than him on the attractiveness scale 12) He is a liberal and/or thinks of himself as a male feminist 13) He suffers from white guilt (assuming he's white) 14) Drives a Prius 15) Dates older women
singlelife Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Very weird thread. Obviously you date weak men. So do you consider yourself a strong woman?
Casablanca Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 5) You are in a LTR with him and he has never or very rarely complained about anything you've ever done. 9) He never gets angry These two are just flat out false, some people, like myself...are very easy to please, rarely get mad and very little bothers them...I am someone who can easily see both sides of an a situation in just about every situation
bac Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Some of these traits don't always go together, as there are different forms of strength: 1) He does not give a f...k to please anyone 2) He likes conflicts. Debating of any sort, even agressive debate, makes him extremely comfortable. 3) He has a history of involvement with needy women who he uses or mistreats. 4) He also has a history of having sex without any feelings and attachments. 5) You are in a FWBs with him and he has complained about many things you've done. 6) His response to you pulling back a bit is to get agressive and rude. 7) He's not there for you when a major life crisis or responsibility comes up. 8) He has a history of dumping girls along 9) He often gets angry 10) He approves of himself unconditionally
Author torn_curtain Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 Some of these traits don't always go together, as there are different forms of strength: 7) He's not there for you when a major life crisis or responsibility comes up. You didn't change this one..lol
rafallus Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 5) and 9) are patently false. "Never gets angry" isn't a sign of weakness, because you can put people in their place, when they get out of line, without actually getting angry at all. In fact, getting angry over minor/irrelevant stuff can be a sign of weakness. "Never complaining" is false too, you can point out problems without getting whiny and pouty about that. There is something inherently weak about constantly complaining about sth, but not doing anything to fix it.
ThsAmericanLife Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Some of these traits don't always go together, as there are different forms of strength: 1) He does not give a f...k to please anyone 2) He likes conflicts. Debating of any sort, even agressive debate, makes him extremely comfortable. 3) He has a history of involvement with needy women who he uses or mistreats. 4) He also has a history of having sex without any feelings and attachments. 5) You are in a FWBs with him and he has complained about many things you've done. 6) His response to you pulling back a bit is to get agressive and rude. 7) He's not there for you when a major life crisis or responsibility comes up. 8) He has a history of dumping girls along 9) He often gets angry 10) He approves of himself unconditionally and... 11) Has rigid gender roles and insists you abide by his version of them. 12) Doesn't view women as human beings. Just something to have sex with and there to take care of his endless needs.
bac Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 You didn't change this one..lol It was because it was one thing in common for weak and alpha men:laugh:
123321 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Drama addicted women are funny too. Their lives are so empty that they have to stir up artificial stimulus by baiting family and friends to even feel alive. They are all over the place today, can see it on this forum. Their lives are like a perpetual Springer show, full of real and virtual slapfights. They constantly shift blame to the men in their lives for not making their lives interesting enough. They do things like complain about men being conflict avoidant (feed my drama monkey!), too agreeable (feed my drama monkey!), putting up with her power trip manipulation (feed my drama monkey!) Most of these types of complaints translate into "do more for Memememememe! because the world revolves around Mememememe!" No thanks. Couldn't agree more. Guys who have this sort of excitement addiction take up skydiving, or rock climbing, or extreme biking or SCUBA or something, All of them maybe. But they don't annoy anyone except insurance agents. One of the things I love about my last few girlfriends is that I implemented a "no BS" rule in my selection process. At the first sign of drama-amplification, out. Experience being the harsh teacher that she is, I know that once it starts it just escalates. I always seek to be peaceful at home, to promote harmony. When I'm with a low-drama woman this is vastly more likely to happen. Home is a safe haven where the family, even if only a couple, recharge and shelter from the outside. It's not a battleground. I wonder if maybe these women come from families that fought a lot or something.
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