leoc1973 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Anyone every use any of those get your ex back books or the ex back fast books. Can anyone tell me if any of them have worked? And someone tell me this secret "trigger" to a womans psycology. I know the whole wanting what you cant have thing but I am sure the are referring to something else. I am thinking she will end up coming back anyways but I wanna help her along.
Layzie89 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Anything in those books you're talking about can be found right here on LS, you just gotta do your research and read up. Familiarize yourself with the forums 'Search' function and make it your best friend. That's my advice. And to answer your question about this 'trigger' you're asking about...non-existant buddy. If it were as simple as finding a trigger and pulling it, none of us would be here on LS in the first place now would we? Nothing you can do will make her want you back, that decision is hers alone to make amd if she wants to get back together with you, she'll let you know. What you CAN do is ho NC and prevent yourself from making mistakes that may push her further away. That'd be your best bet. Good luck brother, hope this helped.
wilsonx Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Anyone every use any of those get your ex back books or the ex back fast books. Can anyone tell me if any of them have worked? And someone tell me this secret "trigger" to a womans psycology. I know the whole wanting what you cant have thing but I am sure the are referring to something else. I am thinking she will end up coming back anyways but I wanna help her along. Alot of the problems with the books is they do not go into the different types of breakups. Nowadays, its more common then ever to breakup with someone and move right on to the next person. This is where the breakup books would fail because they already have the feelings and attraction for the next person while you as an ex would be in the friendzone or even the fwb zone. You have to have a serious amount of game to pull off a reconciliation in these types of circumstances and thats after several months of healing. Ive gotten a second chance many times and they all suck. Its too much work and if only one person is doing the work its best just to let go and move forward with someone new
Rudeman27 Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 I've read a few and they all pretty much say the same stuff. The dumper is expecting you to be torn apart, acting needy and begging for them to come back. They expect it, and it drives them farther way from you. They want to see you as pathetic, to help justify them breaking up with you. This is why NC is so popular, they are so used to you being there for them, they start missing you and wondering how you are. You start working on yourself, improving your situation and work on loving yourself. There are 2 good reasons for this 1) you start to find yourself again, and become the confident person you were before the relationship. Then start to realize you will be ok whether they come back or not. 2) Your ex hears about you or sees your improved situation, attitude, ect and start to see your worth again. They start thinking maybe they needed you more than they thought. Then if the ex contacts you again, you tell them you are great ( with out giving to much detail ) Keep them guessing, build interest. If they ask to see you act like you are not sure its a good idea, make them work on reconnecting etc. All pretty good advice, although each situation is different. Wilsonx had some good advice too. Make sure you aren't the only one working for your relationship. Relationships are partnerships, not one person trying to convince the other it's worth the effort. Good luck man
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