Lucky555 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I'm ready for a serious commitment.I feel my relationship of 9 months has gone no where! This is why! No I love you No I miss you No meeting relatives Won't bring me around his work place Has not discussed any future Just this past week I felt like we were more together like bonding and maybe something more can happen but while I was with him he was testing a Lot. It was his ex gf. Just random things on fb. I had a hunch and was going to ask but I gave him the benefit of the doubt that maye it was his family..bur by his actions it just seemed off. Then I ask him to see him this week and he says he doesn't know! Of course he knows!! It's more like he doesn't want to see me! We see each other once a week only!!!! I think if there was a future here more would have been done by him. I don't want to push myself on to him but I if he wants more he would ask.... I have told him I am wanting to get married someday..makin sure he wanted the same things. Now I am not so sure..I feel strung a long. Another thing I make dinner, drive to see him, and he never is taking me out. He never is trying to make plans in the future. Also he likes "sexting" I hate it! It's not the same for me as it is for him. It's like he wants to make me like it! He got mad the other night becaus wi was not into it..I have started avoiding texting at night for awhile now. I have recently seen girls from his work flirting with him on fb. Now for another girl to flirt with him on fb it means he is probably initiating domestic at work. I have a huge problem with this! So I'm now feeling very very concerned for myself and my future. I don't want to be used, lied to, or strung along. So the positives..he is caring but maybe not enough. I want a guy who wants to be with me and move forward. So I know I cant push it forward but doesn't it sound like I'm being "decieved"? I do things to show I care, I'm faithful, I don't bug him all the time, but bottom line is you can't make someone love you. I figured we would grow closer in time but it seems HE doesn't want to. He doesn't even want to do activities. He wants food,sex, tv. The last time we did an activity he basically didn't want to but I asked him for a month! I want to tell him it seems like he doesn't want a serious relationship..I said this before and he said "we do everything you want". And this isn't true And he never answers the question! At this point I want to know how he feels! I'm not getting it through his actions..ad I stated the list in the beginning. I should be concerned right!
make me believe Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Uhh yes you should be concerned. Are you absolutely sure that you are the only girl he's dating?? It sounds like you could be one of many... But even if he's being faithful (which I doubt), he's not meeting any of your needs and you're wasting your time with him. Dump him & find somebody who's excited to be with you & to have a future with you.
LSgirl Posted July 24, 2011 Posted July 24, 2011 Are we dating the same guy? lol I've been with mine for 7 months, no 'I love you' and not really any 'I miss you' either. I have met all of his friends (his family lives across the country) and he LOVES sexting. sometimes it bothers me because i'd rather here sweet talk than sexting. He's not the emotional type, but he's a very honest and loyal guy. There's no talk of future plans with mine either, no trips, nada... I know he truly cares about me and when we're together he's very affectionate and into me, but not hearing any 'i love you' or future plans makes me feel less secure. Have you thought about talking with him about this? I thought about mine, but it might scare him away. (He was with his ex fiancee for 8 years til she cheated no him) so knowing that, I don't try to rush anything out of him. I'm wondering at what point do I wait til he gives me more security. We're having lots of fun now, I can't imagine myself with anybody else, he's really great except I wish he was taking this more into serious thought and thinking about a future with me. What do we do?
Enchanted Girl Posted July 25, 2011 Posted July 25, 2011 You guys both need to leave these men because you know and he knows that he wants no future with you. You CAN do better. Your partner should at least CARE about you. No I love you's by 3-5 months and you're never going to get one.
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