lonelynyc Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I have been absent from LS for a few days, because I have been trying to reestablish a friendship with my ex. Silly me, there is still zero margin for error and I am still getting manipulated. Today, I was outside enjoying myself playing basketball, and I get a frantic call from ex telling me to rush up to her apartment (an hour away via public transportation) and let her into her apartment because she has locked herself out. Here's the problem--when she dropped me via text a few weeks ago, I put all the stuff she ever gave me out of sight, including the keys. I felt like if I could see them I'd be tempted to go to her apartment unannounced, which we all know would have been horrible. I tell her I have to look for them and she flies into a frenzy, calling me unreliable even as a friend. Unreliable is not picking up and doing everything in your power to get up there with the keys. ****, she dumped me and refused to speak to me for over a week despite knowing that I was going through a lot of very difficult family situations. Now she says she'll never speak to me again... It's funny how cruel people can be. Why do I love someone like this?
redflag Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 you deserve more respect mate, tell her to deal with her own problems it will no doubt shock her into rethinking cos at the min she seems to take you for granted. get on with your life if she comes back its on your terms, take her power over you away
geegirl Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 She just gave you another reason why you should be staying away from her permanently. She presented it to you on a silver platter. Why you keep making the same mistakes? Because you want to. You can love her, but keep your distance and start also learning to love yourself. If you have to ask why you keep making the same mistakes, then it's a sign that you, at this very moment, need to start learning from them instead of repeating them.
Nohbody Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Yes. Break contact, and dive into that silent abyss. It's scary and its lonely. And that's still better than being someone's dog. You will be better for the experience.
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