waterstone Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I will try to keep this as short as possible. I met my girlfriend 1 year ago in the city where i live. i am from the UK and she is from another european country. she was there as part of her studies and we had a great time together (about 5 months) it was so good and by the time she had to go home it had become pretty serious. i spent a week with her in her homeland to celebrate the new year and also went back for a few more days a week later. At the end of january she went to the other side of the world to study for 6 months (she was open about this from the beginning so this wasnt a surprise) but we decided to stay together and do the long distance relationship. i had booked to visit and after 3 months of her being away i went and had an amazing 3 weeks with her it was a great experience made even greater to share it with her. Upon my return to the UK we was both very sad and missing each other, so after speaking we decided i would go back over for another 2 weeks (we shared the cost and i had to work every weekend in order to get the time off work) so after 6 weeks i went back to visit and we had another fantastic time. A few days before i went on this trip though we spoke on the phone and she opened up to me about how unhappy she was with the situation of being in an LDR. She said she couldnt see how things would change when she was back home and she hated having to say goodbye. when she is home we would probably see each other 4 days a month, maybe a couple more now and then. she doesnt think that 26 days of pain is worth the 4 days. just before i went on the trip we spoke again and she said that she had been thinking and she couldnt give me up as i was the best thing to ever happen to her. we had a great time and didnt really speak about this i think for fear of ruining it. i have been home now for 3 weeks and i can feel her upset when we speak. i hate the situation also but i try and be positive because there is nothing we can do about it really. she is coming to the uk in a week and a half so i was trying to wait until she gets here so we could speak but couldnt wait any longer, so i asked her today about us and that not knowing what was gonna happen was killing me. she said she doesnt know and doesnt know what to say and that we will speak when she gets here. i then said to her maybe its best if we dont speak until she comes here, let us both have some time to think about things and let her experience what it would be like if we were to end. she said if i think that is best then we will do this and that she loved me and would miss me. i then told her i wouldnt message her or anything and the next time i would have contact with her would be face to face being at the airport to pick her up and told her to remember exactly how she feels the moment she sees me. she replied saying she never forgets how it is to see me. is this a stupid thing to do? i dont wanna lose her. Thanks
Lucky_One Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Did you do the right thing? To suggest not talking for a week or so until she comes to see you? I dunno. It might really upset me for my SO to want to go that long without speaking. I guess it depends on the persons in the relationship. I wouldn't be able to do it, probably. Question - in January, you said you would move to Germany in a flash to be with her. Why aren't you making plans to move there at this point, now that she is done with South Africa and is back in Germany?
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