bellaa Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Hey everyone, my boyfriend and i dated for almost a year and tonight we split because he wants to be free to go live a single life before he settles down. I understand this and i know i can't hold him back but he still wants me in his life as friends and he is still in love with me. I agreed to being friends and we agreed to texting and calling still and seeing eachother 2times a week. My problem is prior to this we spent everyday together and i slept over his house 3-4 times a week. I don't know how were going to deal with not being able to be affectionate and i don't know how i can personally get over it knowing hes clubbing and out there single. I love him from the bottom of my heart and i love the person he is i just don't know how to deal with it im sick to my stomachhhh!
rightfield Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 This arrangement would not work for me. At this point in the relationship, I personally would not be able to wait on the side and be a spectator while he goes off and plays. As hard as it may be, I think you need to tell him that it's decision time, and either you are a committed couple, or you are moving on completely. Be ready to back up your words. If he calls your bluff and let's you go, be strong and don't go back. It will be painful, but I think staying in an arrangement like that one would be emotionally abusive on an ongoing basis. Start your healing now, and DON'T let him come back and rip your band-aids off.
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