ontrack2 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 So here is the story: I have been dating this girl for a little over a year and we were completely in love with each other. The other week we decided it was time for me to spend some time with her family and we made the 900 mile trip and spent a week at her home (we go to college together) and it went great, it was one of the bet weeks of our lives. A few weeks later, she mentioned that she needed to buckle down and study since she was moving away for a year to attend grad school. Well a few hours later this turned into "we need a break" and a few hours after that it turned into a breakup. She said that we werent connecting anymore and i felt more like a best friend to her than a boyfriend. The next morning i texted her and suggested we take a break and work some things out but she said it couldnt be worked out because its unfixable. I then got straight forward with her and told her that if she didnt love me to tell me so i could go on with life, but if she did love me i wouldnt give up on her, which she never responded to. While we were visiting her family we talked about our future and possibility of marriage, and the possibility of me going with her to grad school, and everything seemed great. We even looked at rings in a magazine and when the breakup happened she said that all she could think about when we were looking at them was that she couldnt see herself getting married to anyone and she craved the freedom of being alone. (She dated a guy before me for 5 years who ended up cheating on her and causing her ALOT of self worth issues) I dont know what happened, and im confused as to what to do...do i contact her or wait...how do i win her back..advice?
Mr. Slim Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 You really have no inkling over what the breakup is about? Nothing?
soulm8 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 she said that she couldnt see herself getting married to anyone and she craved the freedom of being alone. Leave her alone then. Let her miss you.
Author ontrack2 Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 It was so out of the blue...our relationship was going great up until this point...shes scared or has commitment issues? i really dont know
Mr. Slim Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Hey man, I'm sorry you have to go through this. I've been in a somewhat similar situation long ago, maybe not quite as serious but still painful nonetheless. At this point, you have no choice but to accept her decision. Trust me when I say, the harder you try to change her mind, the worse the outcome will be. You've just got to see what happens...
morethanconfused Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 At this point, you have no choice but to accept her decision. Trust me when I say, the harder you try to change her mind, the worse the outcome will be. You've just got to see what happens... I agree. There is nothing you can do right now. It doesn’t matter if she broke up with you because she might have some commitment issues or if she just doesn’t have enough feelings for you to go on with the relationship. What matters is that right now she feels like breaking up is what she wants and you have to respect and accept it. I know it’s hard to let someone go and have all these questions in your head about why and what happened. But right now you won’t get any answers and you can’t change her decision. Next time you find yourself asking if you should text her or if you should get in touch with her just try to think in her shoes. How would you feel if you would have broken up with someone and she would still message you even though you already told her that it would be unfixable? Wouldn’t you want that she should respect you decision? For now you have to let her go. And maybe in a few months or even later you’ll find a way to have another conversation with her where you could get some answers to all your questions. This doesn’t mean that there would be a chance to get back together. It just means that you could get some answers that might be helpful for you to understand what happened.
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