Raspberry_Chicklet Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Hi all! About 6 months ago I ended a relationship with a very abusive, controlling and sociopathic man. I recently met someone wonderful who possesses all the positive traits I have been yearning for. He is the kindest, most genuine person I have ever met and truly holds me on a pedestal. That said, I feel at times he is not able to comprehend certain things I bring up. I feel like such a shallow person even writing this, because he truly is an amazing person. He is mechanically inclined and absolutely street smart but I feel that his IQ may be well below mine. Is it that huge of an issue? As an example, I find myself having to use the "Coles Notes" version on everything. I once used the term "patronizing" while explaining a situation that arose at work and he looked at me with a blank stare. I felt like a complete jerk for having to explain to him what that term meant. Furthermore, it's as if he's been living in a cave for the past 8 years or so. He isn't up to date on movies, music or any kind of pop culture. I'm not sure what to do? I've been waiting 27 years to meet someone as fabulous as him. He is an amazingly wonderful man. He caters to me and would really do anything for me, and it doesn't come off as desperation to me at all as he is a good looking man and does possess a certain degree of charm. And the sex is INCREDIBLE. He has a decent job as well. I guess I'm just wondering if a gap in IQ is a huge problem? Is there a way he can buff up his smarts? Perhaps my desire to keep current and educated will rub off on him (he HAS only dated waitresses in the past - no offence to waitresses - so perhaps I will stimulate his brain)?? Any advice?? I apologize if I am coming off shallow or extremely superficial - perhaps I am and don't even know it. Feel free to let me hear it!!! -K
Feelsgoodman Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 you sounds like your has teh very hi intellugence, What is yore eye cue??
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