Author PhillyDude Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 dude, you don't have to spend money to get laid This thread has nothing to do with getting laid
zengirl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 That is nice! And a great sign that she's both as into you as you are into her (still early so not meaning anything crazy by that, but she obviously digs you then) AND a quality girl. So, at least one thing is going your way. Try to remember that when you feel 'yuck.' I know layoffs suck hardcore.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Should I tell her I don't want any calls between 9am and 6pm since I will be busy with job search during the day? Or just don't answer the phone? I really don't like someone calling me at 1pm because they know I don't have a job. I mean they didn't call at 1pm when I was working so don't do it now. Social Talk is for after 6pm
Andy_K Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Do you not have ANY savings to tide you over? I mean seriously, while you're working did you not ever think to build up 1-2 months worth of income to help in emergencies or tide you over at times like this? If you couldn't afford to save anything, then you couldn't afford dinner dates while you had a job either. If you could afford to but chose not to, you're fiscally irresponsible and that's a big negative for most girls. This is as big a deal as you make it. And I think you're going to make it a VERY big deal, because it's clear your identity and self worth is entirely wrapped up in having a job. I don't think that's a healthy attitude.
zengirl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Should I tell her I don't want any calls between 9am and 6pm since I will be busy with job search during the day? Or just don't answer the phone? I really don't like someone calling me at 1pm because they know I don't have a job. I mean they didn't call at 1pm when I was working so don't do it now. Social Talk is for after 6pm PD, just don't answer the phone. When you say things like "Social Talk is for after 6pm," though, it strikes me as odd. Did you never speak to anyone socially on a break at work? Call anyone on your lunchtime?
Art_Critic Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Should I tell her I don't want any calls between 9am and 6pm since I will be busy with job search during the day? Or just don't answer the phone? I really don't like someone calling me at 1pm because they know I don't have a job. I mean they didn't call at 1pm when I was working so don't do it now. Social Talk is for after 6pm That would be shooting yourself in the foot... Can you not take a call during the day ? I seriously doubt she is going to call you during the day though.. she doesn't know you well enough, but she might call at 5 or so..
oaks Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Should I tell her I don't want any calls between 9am and 6pm since I will be busy with job search during the day? Or just don't answer the phone? I'm sure there will be a time when you're filling in a job application at 10pm, or on a Sunday afternoon, so a little bit of friendly chat during the 'working week' won't kill you! Actually, it might do you good. When you had a job, presumably you would talk with your colleagues occasionally? Don't underestimate how important human contact is, especially when you're going through a stressful time.
Author PhillyDude Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 Do you not have ANY savings to tide you over? I mean seriously, while you're working did you not ever think to build up 1-2 months worth of income to help in emergencies or tide you over at times like this? If you couldn't afford to save anything, then you couldn't afford dinner dates while you had a job either. If you could afford to but chose not to, you're fiscally irresponsible and that's a big negative for most girls. This is as big a deal as you make it. And I think you're going to make it a VERY big deal, because it's clear your identity and self worth is entirely wrapped up in having a job. I don't think that's a healthy attitude. I agree with you, I did a horrible job of manginging my finances and credit while I was employed fo the past two years and should have $7000 to $10, 000 in the bank but I was constantly eating out and not sticking to a budget. So all i can do is move on bbecause how long ca you really stay mad at yourself?
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