Bullet Proof Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 So I went out with a friend a few weeks back, and met a guy at one of the restaurant/bars we went to. Seemed nice, looked a bit too old for me but I gave him a chance. Chatted for a while. The friend I brought, got very drunk, had to leave but did exchange numbers. Next night he asks if I will be in the area, I was going out with the same friend (she was visiting from out of state - her last night with me) and I told him where we would be and he said he would stop by. He did, hung out, more chatting. All light and fun and flirty, but he seems that way with all the women, gut tells me he's a player big time. He then found me on facebook, added me. I am 21, I think he is around 33? 34? Too old for me, but I wouldn't mind hanging out in groups with him. I'll admit I have no friends where I live and it would be nice to get some sort of social circle going around here. He has a jetski that he mentioned the first night I met him and I told him I wanted him to take me for a ride on it. So a few days after I saw him for the second time, he texted me asking to meet him out at one of the bars. I probably would have if it not had been already 9pm Friday night, it was not a date, and seemed like a last minute 'Ohh hey I have this girls number here' thing. I politely declined and asked for a rain check. Monday comes, he does the same thing, asking if I want to come over and go swimming. I decline - I barely know this guy, don't want to go to his home. Then he texted me today asking how I am and he said he's busy with work but wants to 'hangout'. I told him to let me know when he is free (i don't work in the evenings and almost am always free...). He replies 'you can come over at night, i don't care if i have to work in the morning ... we just have to plan it'. Sounds weird .... I really have no interest in this guy for a LTR, but wouldn't mind hanging out and having fun, but I am not some easy girl who will hop into bed with him. What would you make of him? I figured if a guy was truly interested he would set up a real DATE or something and not let's meet as this bar type thing ... ? Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 Sure, if a guy was more interested in a relationship, he would ask you out on an actual date. If you actually want a relationship, don't bother with this guy. Clearly he's just after one thing. Don't give it to him. You're doing the right thing in not going to his place when you barely know him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bullet Proof Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 Sure, if a guy was more interested in a relationship, he would ask you out on an actual date. If you actually want a relationship, don't bother with this guy. Clearly he's just after one thing. Don't give it to him. You're doing the right thing in not going to his place when you barely know him. Thanks, I want a relationship - but not with him, or a guy like him. But I wouldn't mind hanging out with him and his friends at a bar/club type thing, but I don't want to be a tease and him to think he's gonna get any! haha Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted July 23, 2011 Share Posted July 23, 2011 Thanks, I want a relationship - but not with him, or a guy like him. But I wouldn't mind hanging out with him and his friends at a bar/club type thing, but I don't want to be a tease and him to think he's gonna get any! haha Well, if you'd like to just be friends and hang out, tell him that. He might be okay with it, he might not. Just don't give him any mixed messages. Be perfectly clear about your boundaries. You're not a tease if you do that. Link to post Share on other sites
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