happiness0421 Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 I met a guy through volunteer training at work that I was interested in. I knew from another source that the interest was mutual, so the next time we saw each other, I decided to ask him out. I think I beat him to the punch, but either way, he was very receptive and said that he'd "love to" go out sometime. I gave him my cell phone # and said that he could call or text me. He texted the next day, wishing me a happy birthday. I said thank you, and that it was great talking to him the day before. He replied with, "Yes, I am looking forward to hanging out in a less formal atmosphere" (meaning, not work). I just made a little goofy comment back and that was the end of the conversation. I haven't heard anything from him since. I am so new to this "dating game" so I don't know if I am now the one responsible for contacting him and setting something up. I guess I just assumed that if I gave him my number, that he would take the initiative from there...but maybe I'm old school. (He's 28; I'm 24 but just got out of a string of long relationships). Thanks for advice anyone can give!
oaks Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 If you pretend the ball is in your court then you can do something. If you assume the ball is in his court then maybe nothing will happen. You're interested in him, so which do you think you should pick?
musemaj11 Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Its rather weird to ask someone out and expect that person to plan the date. Take him out on a date and if things go well, expect him to plan the next one.
Yookie Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I met a guy through volunteer training at work that I was interested in. I knew from another source that the interest was mutual, so the next time we saw each other, I decided to ask him out. I think I beat him to the punch, but either way, he was very receptive and said that he'd "love to" go out sometime. I gave him my cell phone # and said that he could call or text me. He texted the next day, wishing me a happy birthday. I said thank you, and that it was great talking to him the day before. He replied with, "Yes, I am looking forward to hanging out in a less formal atmosphere" (meaning, not work). I just made a little goofy comment back and that was the end of the conversation. I haven't heard anything from him since. I am so new to this "dating game" so I don't know if I am now the one responsible for contacting him and setting something up. I guess I just assumed that if I gave him my number, that he would take the initiative from there...but maybe I'm old school. (He's 28; I'm 24 but just got out of a string of long relationships). Thanks for advice anyone can give! 1) Never trust information from a third-party. People like to play match maker and some just want to stir the pot. 2) If he was interested in hanging out with you then his actions would match his words.
somedude81 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Its rather weird to ask someone out and expect that person to plan the date. Take him out on a date and if things go well, expect him to plan the next one. I completely agree. Do something.
soulm8 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I think you should wait and see. The next time you see him, ask him if he's into a coffee or bite to eat (not some time, but that day/night unless he specifically proposes a date).
D-Lish Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 If he's not pursuing YOU, he's not interested ENOUGH. That should be all the info you need to move on.
musemaj11 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 If he's not pursuing YOU, he's not interested ENOUGH. That should be all the info you need to move on. What if he is shy?
DuskCrush Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 hmm...I think he would have taken the initiative had he been interested but shy since you already showed your interest. He was maybe just being polite and sparing your feelings. I could be wrong. If anything just send him a cute text message or something...test the waters a bit that way you can have a clearer picture.
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