TaffyTopham Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Is it rude to kick out someone in the morning. Should I feel obliged to (as a woman) cook breakfast for the stranger I just spent the night with? http://adultpersonalsfaq.com/2011/07/20/one-night-stand-etiquette/ So I was very confused about this situation. I googled and found this article online. I kind of disagree with it. The last thing I want to say to someone in the morning is "Thanks for coming over". Doesn't that strike you as weird? ****, someone please help me out.
oaks Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Is it rude to kick out someone in the morning. Should I feel obliged to (as a woman) cook breakfast for the stranger I just spent the night with? Yes it might be rude to kick someone out, unless they did something to deserve that. No you shouldn't feel obliged to cook breakfast for someone, but if you're cooking some for yourself it would be a nice gesture to cook enough for two, but if you're going to have a busy day and you want to get on with it then I'm sure it'll be fine to politely suggest that both get on with your days on your own.
make me believe Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 No, you don't have to cook him breakfast unless you want to. He should just leave after the sex though, IMO. But I agree "thanks for coming over" is fine.
KathyM Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Sheesh. You don't mind sharing your body with a stranger, but object to sharing breakfast with him? Talk about being used and then thrown out the next morning.
betterdeal Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 If you want him to leave, ask him to. Something along the lines of, "Thanks, that was lush. I have work / funeral / HIV test to go to shortly, so would you mind leaving?"
Bullet Proof Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 If you want him to leave just ask him! You aren't obligated to do anything. My first ONS was a horrible drunken mistake. I had work early the next morning, and ran out there with a quick 'see ya later!' - he didn't offer me breakfast ... I would have politely declined anyhow!!
Lil1 Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 If you want him to leave, ask him to. Something along the lines of, "Thanks, that was lush. I have work / funeral / HIV test to go to shortly, so would you mind leaving?" I agree with Pierre. Good manners are good manners! No need to go all out and cook a big ol' breakfast but a cup o Joe and a pastry would be a nice offer.
KathyM Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 I never had a ONS, but the least I would do is a nice breakfast. I would also provide transportation if there is a need for that. I still don't get the awkwardness unless the participants were very drunk. The OP said the man was stranger. I would think that sort of behavior is dangerous. Well, certainly drunken one night stands are very dangerous. Might forget or misuse the condom, and then contract some horrible STD or get pregnant. I read that some STD's can even be contracted while using a condom. Way too dangerous to have sex with a stranger.
KathyM Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Regarding awkward: IMHO, it would be more awkward to have sex with a stranger than to have breakfast with a stranger.:laugh: I agree, it is very risky behavior. Breakfast with a stranger, not a bad idea. Sex with a stranger, way too risky. Definately. You would think it would feel ackward to people to have sex with some guy off the street that they don't know a thing about or a thing about where he's been, or what diseases he might be carrying, but I guess not.
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