truthalwayshurts Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Just wondered if you are just friendly with a dumper just via texting is it easier for them to move on or is it harder to move on? Out of sight out of mind? How true is that? What makes them move on easier NO CONTACT or CARRY ON TALKING TO THEM LIKE A FRIEND? Thanks
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 if you contact the dumper in any way, shape, or form it helps them move on faster because it eases the guilt by showing that you are not so resentful towards them that you won't talk to them. By going NC it helps the dumpee heal, but also might cause a bit of shock to the dumper. If you don't talk to them they wonder if you even like them or not (and nobody wants to be hated).
Philosoraptor Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Honestly as the dumper if she went NC it would be wonderful. The relationship was a trainwreck that shouldn't have made it as long as it did. We live together and it doesn't bother me too much to see her, but the days I don't are so much better. Once she moves away I'd be much better off without her being around so damn much. But I'm sure this is not the norm. But in a normal situation I'd agree with the above.
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