Mz. Pixie Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 What condition is her therapist smoking medical marijuana for? Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 What condition is her therapist smoking medical marijuana for? :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 Have you done anything about your co-dependency? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 I am not going to answer anything above and just let you know, some events that went on last night might have ended things from my perspective. We went out for dinner with a friend in from California, my wife was drunk the whole time I was there, the night ended in her not wanting to go home with me and my friends had to drive her home. I am just repulsed by her behavior, when she drinks she gets so mean and stupid, loud and idiotic. Embarrassed me in front of my friend and made a big deal out of nothing. She had left her car at my friends parents (friend who was visiting) and they drove her back to the car, my buddy would not let her drive because of her drinking. She insisted that she drive home or I would be angry. So, I spoke to her on the phone and told her to sleep there. I was not happy with her not being able to drive herself home, but I would be more unhappy if she got into a car crash. I am SO PISSED OFF. Tired of her bullsh**. Stop acting like a f'ing child and get your act together. You are starting a new job next week and you are sick, so why are you drinking and acting like a moron? There is more to this story, I am done caring about it though. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 she's making it easy on you man. WALK THE F AWAY PLEASE. PLEASE!! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 she's making it easy on you man. WALK THE F AWAY PLEASE. PLEASE!! Seconded. Dude when someone drinks, their true feelings come out. Their inhibitions and the barrier that they put up to the rest of the world (ie. you) comes crashing down. You don't need to give us the full details of what happened but suffice to say you've got more honesty from her in that one night of drunkenness than you've had in months of her being sober. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: I have never been closer to doing so. Will let you all know what happens after tonight. Have not spoke to her yet today. Fuming, so f'ing pissed off. She clearly has developed an alcohol problem, the most common sign is DENIAL. She gets so angry when I suggest that. Listen, this is a woman who is a Vegan, was completely drug and alcohol free, had a great job, owns a house and two cars, into yoga and zumba - exercised constantly, ate healthy, rarely went out at night. Now she is living the opposite type of lifestyle, no drugs involved but she had it all including a great husband that countless people have said to her "don't let this one get away!". Come on, wake up you dumb b****. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 yep, she's going OUT OF HER WAY to send you big, fat clear signals that she wants out. She's doing everything to undermine the marriage. Time to read the signals, bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 PNP: I know man, she was actually fine until the end of the night when she started seeing stupid ****. "If you are going to complain about my drinking and treat me like your child in terms of going out then this is over" - Saying that kind of s***. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 For a week she was on good behavior and now? Just because she is starting a new job means that she can do whatever she wants until then? F NO! What's hilarious is, after all the fighting last night, she stayed out with my friends for a bit and I went home, when I said goodbye to her she said "are we cool? drive safe home, please" Very concerned all of a sudden and like nothing happened and it was a minor thing. She does not understand the gravity of what she is doing. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 when I said goodbye to her she said "are we cool? drive safe home, please" She's talking to you like you're her room-mate instead of her husband. BAD news. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 Yeah, sounds like it eh? The other thing I am concerned about, the guys we were smoke pot - there is a chance she smoked pot with them (I don't know though) She has a drug test for her new job soon. For her sake I hope she did not do this otherwise there is going to be a whole new layer of anger being thrust upon her. We are done. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 God this situation sucks man, I feel for you.. you love even though she is making your life hell. WHY??? why do people (myself absolutely included) want to hold onto dear life to someone who is so disrespectful, unappreciative and f-ed up? it defies all logic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: I don't know bro.. something about her keeps resonating in my head, saying "if she gets her act together, she is the one". From day one I thought she was the one, never worried about our relationship falling apart because it was so solid. Silly me! What an idiot. I bet you felt the same at one point. All I know is this can't continue, I CAN do a lot better. My wife is clearly damaged goods. Time to run far away. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: I don't know bro.. something about her keeps resonating in my head, saying "if she gets her act together, she is the one". From day one I thought she was the one, never worried about our relationship falling apart because it was so solid. Silly me! What an idiot. I bet you felt the same at one point. All I know is this can't continue, I CAN do a lot better. My wife is clearly damaged goods. Time to run far away. i know it too.. and jeez i dont even have a choice. there is no way my exW is ever coming back, ever. and I STILL miss her.. and hate that she has the nerve to act like the years 2002-2010 ever happened. I really think I wont be over her until I meet someone else, and who knows how long that will take. in the meantime, I'll continue to improve me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 mm4: Good plan, keep improving yourself. I think I am in the same boat. I won't get over her until another one comes along. At this point, I am welcoming that and looking forward to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 Man, last night was messed up. My friend kept insisting, no - you go home with your husband and talk this out. She was not having it and said, if no one will take me home I have friends in this neighborhood I could stay with. OM lived only 5 blocks in the city from where we were. I don't know if she meant him specifically but she made others friends down there when she left me too. After I went home, I sent a text to my friend who was visiting and thanked him for taking my sloppy wife back to his house. He said, yeah - let's get together again before I head back to California, maybe this time it will be just you. My wife is friends with him too and she basically ruined that, made herself look like an a**hole. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 She has a job, doesn't need you anymore and is getting ready to leave anyway. So she doesn't need to play nice anymore. I could be wrong, but that's my take on the whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
starting2wakeup Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 when I said goodbye to her she said "are we cool? drive safe home, please" Yeah, "are we cool?" is something your best bro says to you after you just had an argument. The other thing I am concerned about, the guys we were smoke pot - there is a chance she smoked pot with them (I don't know though) She has a drug test for her new job soon. Could she be trying to sabotage this new job before she even starts it? Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 (edited) surfer / MM4 I too at one time thought tha I had been dealt 5 aces and won the lottery when I married my EX True, I did kick her out immediately, but a part of me kept hoping that somehow I would wake up and it would have been simply a nightmare. Or that somehow, someway some magic would be found to put humpty dumpty back together again. Why do we try to hang on to them? For me, I felt that I had finally captured lightening in a bottle, and was afraid that I would never find that magic again. As a retired person, I see you two as still quite young yet. You still have a lot of living to do, it is time to move on. Trust me, the world is full of women who are just as lost as you looking for someone special to share their lives with. Edited July 28, 2011 by 2.50 a gallon mispelling Link to post Share on other sites
Author Surfer203 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 sumdude: You could be right. Problem for her is.. she will still be responsible to pay half of the bills and mortgage AND find somewhere else to live and pay for. She won't be able to afford it. Plus she has contributed to massive debt she needs to pay into. She does not have many options. starting2wakeup: Yeah.. sounds like bros, haha. Dumb. It is a distinct possibility that she is trying to sabotage the job. She was mentioning how she was scared to start working there because it would interfere with her dreams. haha f***! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 "if she gets her act together, she is the one". Nothing to stop you re-marrying if/when she gets her act together. Link to post Share on other sites
bornb4thewind Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 Man, Surfer. While she exhibits small signs of improvement, her real self shows itself HUGELY!!! What more needs to be said? SHE WILL NEVER, NEVER, NEVER DO RIGHT BY YOU!!! PERIOD!!! NNNNNNEEEEEVVVVVVEEEERRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 sumdude: You could be right. Problem for her is.. she will still be responsible to pay half of the bills and mortgage AND find somewhere else to live and pay for. She won't be able to afford it. Plus she has contributed to massive debt she needs to pay into. She does not have many options. starting2wakeup: Yeah.. sounds like bros, haha. Dumb. It is a distinct possibility that she is trying to sabotage the job. She was mentioning how she was scared to start working there because it would interfere with her dreams. haha f***! Is her name on the loans? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 Forget about the money. If you've decided it's over, then see an attorney and end it. The money will sort itself out. Believe me you will be financially just peachy without her, probably much better off than now. Don't worry about where she'll live or how she'll pay her bills, that's her problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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