tearducts Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 My boyfriend broke up with me in June after 6.5 years. We've lived together for 5 of those years. His reasons were that we have different goals (I want to get married, have children etc, he's not sure if he does), he's not good enough for me, he's just holding me back, we don't have enough in common etc. It was such a massive shock to me, I was not expecting it at all. We'd just had an amazing holiday together and I thought we were both happy. We're still in contact and trying to have a friendship. We have a great connection and share the same sense of humor, view of the world etc. The times that we have spent together since breaking up have been great. We can just sit and talk about anything and everything for hours on end. I'm worried that the friendship is really just a waiting game for me. I am holding out hope that we can get back together. He says he still loves me and won't rule anything out. Am I being foolish? I desperately want to tell him how much I miss him and want to be with him but I'm trying to retain some dignity and hold it together. He's left a lot of his stuff at our apartment and I can't help but think that it's because he's still half in the relationship. He's also continuing to pay rent and utilities for the next few months. Is that a good sign? Or am I just being stupid. I'd been doing pretty well, all things considered, up until a few days ago. Since then I've been teary every night and can't sleep. I just desperately want him back.
Philosoraptor Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Sounds to me like he wants out but feels guilty for doing so. It doesn't sound like his is willing to be honest with his reasons as he doesn't want to burn a bridge. I'd say just start working on yourself and do what you can do make yourself happy. He's gone, it's time for you to be your focus.
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