Actions speak louder than words

[willi.az.b]

Hello,

 

So I have a question that has been bothering me. I have been in a relationship for almost seven years. We started dating when I was a senior in high school and he was a freshman in college. We of course have had our ups and downs in our relationship and always managed to get through them. We bought a house together about a year ago and moved in (I am only on the deed). Few months into moving out we both got new jobs. I took a management position making a lot more than what he was making in his position. However, in his culture the man should always be the breadwinner of the family and I know it bothers him that I make more. Everything has been great and recently we just got engaged. I was so happy and excited to finally take that next step. But BAM!! Something changed. I became a bit more jealous and started checking his phone and asking questions about his co-workers. He works with a few ladies his age that seem a bit on the flirty side. Every time he post something on Facebook, it seems like they comment on it or say something. While I was going through stuff I notice that he was emailing his workers about random stuff never anything bad, but still bother me. I confronted him about it so now he deletes everything and gets upset that I check up on him. He said he has never given me a reason to do that so why am I? Well it seems like it keeps getting worse and we keep getting in arguments. We got into a huge one this past weekend and he told me he didn’t love me! Wow never hurt so badly in my life. How can someone be okay with that? Then the next day he never apologized but said that I pissed him off so bad that is why he said it. Its still bothering but I am trying to look past it.. So I really have been trying not to start things and even planned a day trip to get away. Then tonight he is like this is stupid you know I hate to walk or there is nothing to do there. I told him he didn’t have to come but I was going. He then was like I guess I can try. I wanted to go to have alone time and try to patch up our problems. However, it started a fight and he said I really don’t think this relationship is going to work. I have no idea what I have done to deserve such hurtful words. I need some guidance on what to do from here. Do I keep going on?

[phillyfan]

Hello,

 

So I have a question that has been bothering me. I have been in a relationship for almost seven years. We started dating when I was a senior in high school and he was a freshman in college. We of course have had our ups and downs in our relationship and always managed to get through them. We bought a house together about a year ago and moved in (I am only on the deed). Few months into moving out we both got new jobs. I took a management position making a lot more than what he was making in his position. However, in his culture the man should always be the breadwinner of the family and I know it bothers him that I make more. Everything has been great and recently we just got engaged. I was so happy and excited to finally take that next step. But BAM!! Something changed. I became a bit more jealous and started checking his phone and asking questions about his co-workers. He works with a few ladies his age that seem a bit on the flirty side. Every time he post something on Facebook, it seems like they comment on it or say something. While I was going through stuff I notice that he was emailing his workers about random stuff never anything bad, but still bother me. I confronted him about it so now he deletes everything and gets upset that I check up on him. He said he has never given me a reason to do that so why am I? Well it seems like it keeps getting worse and we keep getting in arguments. We got into a huge one this past weekend and he told me he didn’t love me! Wow never hurt so badly in my life. How can someone be okay with that? Then the next day he never apologized but said that I pissed him off so bad that is why he said it. Its still bothering but I am trying to look past it.. So I really have been trying not to start things and even planned a day trip to get away. Then tonight he is like this is stupid you know I hate to walk or there is nothing to do there. I told him he didn’t have to come but I was going. He then was like I guess I can try. I wanted to go to have alone time and try to patch up our problems. However, it started a fight and he said I really don’t think this relationship is going to work. I have no idea what I have done to deserve such hurtful words. I need some guidance on what to do from here. Do I keep going on?

 

Dude I am sorry but there aint really an option 4 u 2 keep carryin on with the guy as he seems to have just ended it.

[sleepykitten]

Have to say i agree with Phillyfan-he has said he doent love you-now even if he says you were irritating him thats why he said it...do you really want to be with someone that does that. I think you need to walk away.