TZ Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 I won't get into more details about my breakup as you can read it elsewhere. But I ask all of you, what could be the meaning of a blank email sent by my ex-bf 4 days after the breakup? So far, I haven't initiated contact and it's been 3 weeks since the breakup. Your thoughts?
faux Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 A blank email? Sounds rather unimportant. I wonder why after so many weeks you start to ruminate over this email now. If he sends something that contains actual text, then I'd maybe wonder. Right now, if you can, just dismiss it.
Author TZ Posted April 25, 2004 Author Posted April 25, 2004 Appreciate your response. But I've been banging my head over this one since then. It takes some effort to send an email. But why a blank one? I'm probably one of those curious, overly analytical ones, that can't leave this one alone. To me, it counts as some form of contact on his part.
Pyrannaste Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 Did the email have an attachement? If so, it could be just a virus that propagates itself by email. did the email have a subject? or was the subjecy line blank? perhaps your ex just sent it by mistake. or perhaps he sent it to check if you would react to the blank email, having the 'I sent it by mistake' excuse ready. (although this sounds pretty unlikely)
moimeme Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 It is very easy to click something by mistake and then further it with a second 'oops'. Put it this way - if he had something to say, he would have said it. Sending a blank email means nothing. Really.
befuddled11 Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 Strangely enough, over the past several years, I've had 2 occasions where fairly recent exes did the exact same thing..err...I ended up receiving totally blank emails from them. As it turns out (both later laughingly fessed up to it), sending a blank email was a way to perhaps elicit a response from me. They were wanting to write but weren't sure what to say, weren't sure how I'd react/respond to what they might have had to say, were missing me but were too proud to admit it....so doing THIS was a way to initiate a dialogue....like to see if I'd write back to say, "I received a blank email from you. Did you mean to send that? Did you hit the send button too soon? Did you accidentally delete what you'd written, maybe?" ...and then of course they'd write back in response, and before long, maybe we'd be communicating again. The first guy who did this, "this" explanation did cross my mind but there were other possibilities........but when we later began communicating, I asked him about it, in person...and he was embarassed to admit it but he did admit it and the reasons above. When the next did the same thing, I basically just came right out and asked him LOL...if that was what he was up to, and at first he wouldn't admit it, but he finally did. So that could have possibly been what your ex did. Not wanting to be the "first one" to make contact, but wanting to send you a "sign" that he wanted contact, hoping you'd make the first move in writing back.
Author TZ Posted April 25, 2004 Author Posted April 25, 2004 I appreciate all your responses, once again. To befuddled11, you hit it RIGHT ON THE HEAD!!! It's exactly what I was speculating, but I still wanted to hear from others. Isn't it funny how we (well, at least me) overanalyze stuff just to attach meaning to things? The email had no attachment, no subject line, no text, no signature, no NOTHING. It couldn't have been sent due to a virus. It was sent on a Saturday, around 8:30pm, just around the time when we would usually be together. The recipient (my name) was not picked up from his address book (it didn't have my name surrounded by quotation marks), it was typed in using my long email address instead. He didn't follow up with an "oops" email. I didn't reply, although I wanted to, just to ask why he had sent a blank email. I honestly didn't want to get a curt email from him saying "why are you bothering me?" or "leave me alone". So I was sparing myself from further hurt. Whatever response I might have gotten (even no response), I would have (guess what?) overanalyzed it. Sigh. The other thing is that I've received three calls from unknown numbers on my cell since the breakup. I did a reverse lookup and they turned out to be residential numbers of people I don't recognize. One of them is unlisted. I haven't called the numbers to check up. Whoever called, if genuine, must have thought they were dialing the right number, but got me instead. Still, strange, since I've never received this many "wrong numbers". BTW, none left messages; they showed up as "missed call".
sportsloving Posted April 25, 2004 Posted April 25, 2004 When my S/O and I were having a hard time and we weren't communicating at all, it was difficult and every three days I would get a call on my cell phone (when I was at work and not able to answer) that would come up anonymous. It was pretty steady, and never a voice mail. We got back to being Us, and I happened to mention that my mysterious calls had ended, and he told me that it was him every time~ just wanted me to know that he was thinking of me without having to tell me (LOL). Now he does it every once in awhile when he is busy and can't call or email. I get a unlisted missed call, with no voice mail
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