UT_longhorn Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 so several months back, I took out a girl a few times to dinner. we'll call her sister A. i think we went out on 3-4 dates total. there wasn't any chemistry from either side, and we remained friends. i think the most we did was to hold hands once. fast forward several months later..i met her sister (sister b) and we instantly clicked. great chemistry and we have hung out a few times. yesterday..sister b was very upset because she really wants to date me but doesn't want to ruin her relationship with sister a. i completely understand sister b...but honestly...what i had with sister a was more of a friendship. sister b is confused and doesn't know what to do. what do you guys think?
Enchanted Girl Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 She should talk to sister A about it. If sister A really felt like what the two of you had had zero attraction or chemistry to it like you did, then she won't care. I dated a guy about that many times that I felt that way about and I wouldn't care if anyone I knew dated him because I never thought of him in that way. Just remember that just because YOU may have felt that there was no attraction or chemistry between you two doesn't mean that SHE felt that way, too.
udolipixie Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 so several months back, I took out a girl a few times to dinner. we'll call her sister A. i think we went out on 3-4 dates total. there wasn't any chemistry from either side, and we remained friends. i think the most we did was to hold hands once. fast forward several months later..i met her sister (sister b) and we instantly clicked. great chemistry and we have hung out a few times. yesterday..sister b was very upset because she really wants to date me but doesn't want to ruin her relationship with sister a. i completely understand sister b...but honestly...what i had with sister a was more of a friendship. sister b is confused and doesn't know what to do. what do you guys think? Date her. Most girls should know if you have a sister and a bf he has thought of having sex with her or having sex with the both of you so she should be accepting.
Author UT_longhorn Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 so just to give a little more detail, sister B and I went out on 2 dates. both dates we had great conversation and both dates we ended up kissing intimately for a while. The last date was when she told me she was feeling guilty for not telling her sister A that we were hanging out. I told her to do whatever she thought was best for herself. we texted after the date, and she ended out convo with "good night love". Since the last date 3 days ago, neither of us have contacted each other. me mainly because I wanted to give her some space. What do you think is going through her mind? What do i do next?
make me believe Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Hmm. I have a twin sister and if I was sister A in this situation I might be a little weirded out at first, but I certainly wouldn't be bothered by it long term. Sister B should just be up front with her. She should tell her that she met you & you guys hung out a couple times & she is interested in you. There's no reason Sister A should have a problem with it. But you can't really do much from your position. You could call or text her & say hi, then broach the subject... tell her you know she's been feeling guilty & ask if her & her sis have spoken about it. Suggest that she brings it up & feels her sister out a bit. She's probably expecting it to be worse than it will be, especially since you said there was no chemistry from either you or sis A.
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