flirtatwork Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 (edited) Soo, I posted something about this very matter before but things change as the time pasts. Here we go.. I met this girl at work couple of months ago and I started flirting with her a lot and she liked it and even flirted back. The thing is now I haven't got on an actual date yet. I asked her out to have an ice-cream with me and she had been busy but accepted it and we had a great time, went to the mall and she told me a couple of days later that she liked it. She went out of town for a vacation and I didn't talk much to her cuz her "phone was dead most of the time" and something. I thought about her many times a day the whole week she was away and tried a couple of times sending her texts but did get little responses. So she came home and I asked her to meet me today at 3 o clock cuz I had work around 6. My intention was to buy her a cake and coffee or just something nice at a coffee house and just chat. She told me to call her an hour before, so I just texted her saying Hi, just to see if she would reply. I got no reply so I called and she was apparently busy with her parents so I didn't really get to meet her until 4:30 so I had very little time to spend any time with her cuz I had to work soon and I had been waiting sooo long to see her and talk to her so I got stressed out and didn't know what to talk about and kept checking my phone. So the cake and coffee did not happen. I think she understands why. I mean it wasn't all bad we just didn't do what I wanted if you know what I mean I didn't have control of the situation. But I don't know if she really knows that it meant much to me to see her but I wanted it to last and have a good time but it didnt last. So what Im trying to say I don't seem to get GOOD time with her to just talk about ourselves… I mean I know she likes me at some point and she likes when I flirt with her and give her massages and say nice things to her but I want more, I cant explain it I want a real date, It's like shes treating me like a friend maybe in a friend zone but friends do not flirt and all that. I think Im sure she knows my intentions but I dont know if she just thinks I want her in bed witch is not what Im thinking but something more. Another thing, she doesn't have many girlfriends, her best girlfriend just moved to another country and she seems always to hang out with guys. I asked her when she was going to show me her place, (she told me she was going to show it to me cuz she moved there recently) she said the place was a mess but soon. When texting her tonight it came up that she was cleaning the place and later when I asked her if she wanted to pick me up at work and I would buy her an ice-cream or just hang out she replied that she didn't really want ice-cream and and her friend was at her place anyways. She is not dating this guy and I know that for sure but I think it's so weird. I don't know if it bothers me, but Im a little jealous cuz I wanted to chill with her. i don't know I just need someone to read something out of this and give me advices. Edited July 22, 2011 by flirtatwork
Author flirtatwork Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 yea, I really dont know about this.. but something tells me to keep going. I dont know how to tell her I want an actual date without soundling lame or something. I want to have fun on the date being occupied with something at the same time being occupied with her. I dont even know what to do with her that makes things happen. One thing is that I dont drink alcahol but she does so she doesnt probably count me in her nightlife though. I would be more than happy to go with her if she would go.
sleepykitten Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 I think you should ask her out just text her and say, do you fancy going to a ,movie/dinner one night. If she says yes then she's into you, or at least you'll get the chance to find out. If she makes some excuses then you'll know not to waste anymore time on her.
Author flirtatwork Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 I think you should ask her out just text her and say, do you fancy going to a ,movie/dinner one night. If she says yes then she's into you, or at least you'll get the chance to find out. If she makes some excuses then you'll know not to waste anymore time on her. Should I not decide the day and time and what place we would go to first?, sorry I have not been dating alot in the past year. lol
veggirl Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 yes pick a specific day. If she is busy that day, she will offer an alternative day if she is into you
Author flirtatwork Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 Another thing, she doesn't have many girlfriends, her best girlfriend just moved to another country and she seems always to hang out with guys. I asked her when she was going to show me her place, (she told me she was going to show it to me cuz she moved there recently) she said the place was a mess but soon. When texting her tonight it came up that she was cleaning the place and later when I asked her if she wanted to pick me up at work and I would buy her an ice-cream or just hang out she replied that she didn't really want ice-cream and and her friend was at her place anyways. She is not dating this guy and I know that for sure but I think it's so weird. I don't know if it bothers me, but Im a little jealous cuz I wanted to chill with her. Was the turndown something to really think about or was it something that I should not worry about?
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